3 keys to happiness in life

3 Keys To Happiness In Life

1. Appreciate what is here (live in the moment)

What is already there does not need anything to exist, it is just there. You may wonder of its
value, reasoning as to why they are there, how they got there, how they may be for keeps or
how they may be improved, etcetera. These wonderings are philosophy thoughts, questions
and answers, discussions, debates, dissecting truth from truth. They will not take you very far;
correction, they will take you further and further away from your experience of now.

What this moment needs from us is not our knowledge, but our awareness.

And, there is no effort per say to be aware; knowledge on the other hand, often makes our
head confused and heavy. And we may not mind, because the ego is dancing. But, the price we
pay for this is our peace. If we keep scrutinizing and comparing what we have here with us now
with the past and the future, then we may never be completely present in our blessed life.

Desire is the root of evil. Buddha

If we look elsewhere, toward the future, for instance we are focusing on what we may attain
and we end up experiencing that desire of it, not it. And, so we are trapped in inadequacy,
emptiness and a sense of lacking.

When we rummage through the past, it is not difficult to take notice of things we have
absolutely no control over. There is nothing to change, nothing to do the moment is done.
And so we may remain latched in powerlessness.

Even reminiscing in fond memories of the past, should not take us away from the present,
otherwise we will miss at making more memories for the future.

Here, now is the moment between all of time where eternity bursts forward!

How can we miss that?

2. Practice gratitude

We have a relationship with all the good things in our life. How we experience this relationship
determines the presence of these good things in our life and their quality in our life. If we
believe that things do not just happen to us, instead that we mould our reality, then we are
taking personal ownership. Then, we may change and monitor our relationship with the good in
our life.

The single thing we have supreme control over is our thoughts and our reactions.

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People and circumstances may influence this, but we, individually control this. This may seem
hard to absorb at times, especially in times of tragedy. However, this is the very real and
practical reason why we have be very aware of our feelings so we never cave to helplessness.
And if we do fall, we may pick ourselves up. No one else or no circumstance may pick us up
they may only help and influence us we have to do it ourselves, because only we may control
our thoughts and our reactions. There is a bit of good news here and a bit of not so good news
here. Lets stay focused on the good news.

When we carry our thoughts and our reactions with gratitude for something, we are celebrating
its presence in our life. Admiration for something may not be enough to experience it.
Gratitude is the next crucial step in order to own the experience of having it in your life.

Gratitude owns the good things!

This is it! If we may guide and lead our thoughts and our reactions to be ultimately grateful for
the good things in our life, we will experience the joy of it to the fullest the more goodness we
appreciate, the more good we experience.

TRY THIS! Say to yourself with your eyes closed (or imagine your eyes are closed), I want
Love five times. How does it feel?

Pause, and say I have Love five times. How does it feel?

You will feel the difference in the kind of joy you experience one of wanting and one of having.
For me, I experience an inner-smile within me, when I repeat, I have Love, there is less anxiety,
more peace. There is more realness, even more power. Admiration is about desire. Gratitude is
about acceptance.

The essence of gratitude is not only in appreciating something as good, but something
good in our life.

When we fill our thoughts and reactions with gratitude toward something, we will not be taking
it for granted. However, when we stop, we will be. If we take a relationship for example, it may
be that we see her/him every day, perhaps at work or home. Or it may also be that we fail to
keep in touch by meeting regularly. We may run the risk of taking her/him for granted our
good thoughts of the person start to reduce. The goodness of her/him continues to be, but at a
distance from us. Soon, we experience numbness, then disappointment. The less your good
thoughts for her/him, the more the distance and for prolonged periods of time, it may lead to
worry, pain and in extreme we may literally suffer a loss when the relationship breaks down.

Just like good food is meant to be devoured, our beautiful life is meant to be enjoyed. Do say
your thanks before your every meal and before your every experience. Amen.

3. Be (Love) yourself

Personally, I find this the most important key to happiness. For, without You, there can be no
gratitude to practice. Without You, there will be no moment to be enjoyed. Without a Loving
You, there may be no Love to share.

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If you are unaware of your true self then you will not know what kind of happiness clicks with
you. As a result, your choices in life your experiences and relationships, will become
inconsistent and even conflicting with your being. Here, your experiences may match your
character, but they cannot match you in essence. While your characteristics may be in common
with other people, your essence is one of a kind, only found in you.

No one can be you. Only you exclusively can.

This is empowering, because here you will know yourself as the principal reference point in
your life. You are your own role model.

When you live from your authentic self, your experience will be authentic, no matter what it
may be because you will be experiencing them. You may be at the top of the mountain or at
the marketplace; it does not matter because you will be experiencing them. When you are at
peace with yourself, peace will be your experience. When you are estranged from yourself, you
will be detached from your experience.

Are we living our life as a compassionate person by being kind and patient toward other
people whilst we are being resentful to our own self?

Charity begins at home. Proverb

Our home is also our space inside, a place where our true self lives.

There is this lady who serves the community as an activist and helps thousands of children. She
also comes home crazed from her work to her children who only want to spend time with her.
But, she yells at them and sits them in front of the television all night instead. This happens
every day.

To the world, she is a peacemaker. At home, she does not exist.

We can very well be honest and nice with people even when we are lying to our self. However,
we may only face reality until we face our self. And, when we see that we have been unkind to
our self, neglecting our self it hurts.

We can always come back to self-awareness after we have been lost, and we will. But, the
journey is a painful one. And so it is far better to live from your authentic self consistently.

It is better to surrender to yourself than to another.

We are vulnerable people at heart. And everyone knows what it is like to get hurt. So we may
tend to close certain parts of ourselves to others, giving others restricted access to our being.
That is natural. Trouble happens when we start treating ourselves the way other people have.
This usually happens when we secretly take other peoples versions about us to have more
weight than our own awareness about ourselves.

Self-doubt leads to self-betrayal!

Then we bury ourselves deeper and deeper, punishing our self for being vulnerable for being
our self. We literally start to lose ourselves.

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There can be no joy in losing ourselves to meet other peoples expectations. This is because it is
not possible to meet other peoples expectations at all there are too many people and too
many opinions. And so we will be trapped in trying to please people without possible success.
They are dissatisfied with us and we are dissatisfied with our self. But we keep searching for
happiness, even in this vicious cycle.

The only road that can take us forward is the road back home back to that transit
where we relinquished parts of ourselves; here, have we to reclaim our self.

This is the return to innocence.

You are the captain of your soul and if you ride with your eyes closed, you will crash! You have
to see for yourself. You have to be yourself.

Its not that I think my Love for you is not enough. But our Love is like a conversation. By you Loving
yourself, you will understand the language with which I speak. Vishal Singh

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3 Keys To Happiness
Posted in Balance In Me, Balanced Lifestyle | May 19, 2015 | Comments Off on 3 Keys To Happiness

Happiness is all about perspective. If your mind is always set on thinking about what
you havent got, or havent yet achieved, then you are going to find yourself living in a
constant state of discontentment.

Only when we are content with ourselves, our situation and our progress, can we really
experience happiness.

Having different goals, plans, hopes and dreams are important because they help drive
us forwards and give us things we can work towards But when we really think about
it, now is the most important time in our lives. It is in this minute that we are living,
not the past nor the future. As morbid as it may sound, the future may never come
about, so taking time to appreciate who you are and where you are in this moment is
crucial to experiencing real happiness.

So how do we keep drawing our awareness back into the present, when it wanders off
into the potential future? The answer is practising mindfulness. By becoming more
aware of our thoughts and our actions as they happen, we can shape ourselves into
the person we want to be. If you want something for your future, then set about
working towards that now. That way you can be happy and proud as you progress
towards achieving it!

Life is always presenting us with ups and downs, it is a part of the growing and learning
experience. How we are able to cope with these changes and how we choose to
experience and react to them, is all a part of what shapes us and defines us as
individuals.

Feeling unpleasant emotions in reaction to unpleasant experiences is completely

Obviously we will always come across obstacle on our paths. Sometimes it can be
difficult to always remain mindful, present and happy. There are 3 main keys that I try
to incorporate into my life that helps me maintain perspective and in turn cultivate
happiness:

1. Gratitude

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Many people are born into abundant and nurturing environments that support them
and offer them many reasons to feel gratitude. Unfortunately though, many more are
not. For those of us who have not been so blessed from birth, understanding gratitude
needs to be learnt before it can be experienced. Once we become more mindful and
aware of all the gifts in our lives that we have to be grateful for, happiness soon
follows. It doesnt always have to be ecstatic happiness, it may at times be a contented
happiness.

Tips to cultivate gratitude:

The use of gratitude meditations is a great way of cultivating mindfulness and

Writing a diary to record daily blessings you have experienced each day.

Setting daily positive intentions, preferably first thing in the morning, helps lay
the foundation for a mindful day full of gratitude, awareness and of course
happiness

2. Compassion

Having an understanding of all living things and a compassionate approach to yourself

Compassion for self: We all make mistakes, and we all have areas of self we can work
on. So avoid being overly critical of yourself, see the beauty in you, forgive
yourself when you make mistakes and reassure yourself with love and kindness that
you are continuing to learn and grow.

Compassion for others: It is very easy to judge a book by its cover, or make critical
comparisons and judgements of others. Having compassion for others, as well as all
living creatures, is an important key to happiness. My mother always said to me, Treat
others how you wish to be treated, if we all did this then imagine what a happy world
we would live in?

To help develop your own compassion, try to do a random act of kindness each day,
you may be surprised how helping another also helps you to feel happy in yourself.

3. Love and Passion

They say love is what makes the world go round, and it sure makes the world a
happier place. It is not just about reciprocating the love of another person though.
Family, friends and partners are important, however it is also about loving what you are

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doing and having passion to drive you. Choosing a job that you can be passionate
about, picking hobbies that challenge you in ways you enjoy, being around people who
you love and who remind you how worthy of love you are. Loving yourself and making
choices that affirm this feeling of love.

If you are not happy with who you are and what you do, then make some changes to
incorporate more love and passion into your life!

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