Do you hate your boss? Like really, REALLY hate him?

Everyone dislikes their boss at some point. But if it’s a perpetual state of affairs, that’s a
serious problem. It could make your working day hell and potentially affect your overall job
performance.

Studies have shown that discord between an employee and manager is one of the major
reasons why people leave jobs. But running away from your job should only be a last resort
since you could easily find another bad boss at your next job.

Bad bosses come in many flavors, and here are some ways in which you can deal with them.
Warning: Many involve a degree of self-control and discipline that you probably won’t feel if
you detest your supervisor but are worth giving a shot.

1. Is it just you or everyone else too?

“It’s very easy to misunderstand the boss,” says Ramesh Vaswani, executive vice chairman
of computer accessory-maker Intex Technologies (India) Ltd. Mr. Vaswani says employees
should appreciate that there is a reason why the person is your boss. So instead of taking the
boss’s antagonistic attitude personally, try to understand the reason for the bad behavior. If
necessary, do your own rigorous self-assessment.

Are you not doing your work up to the required standards? Change that. Does your
personality not match with your boss’s? Overcome your personal feelings and focus on your
professional relationship with the boss.

However, if the boss is perceived as bad for your peers as well–it really isn’t you, it’s him!–
try some of the steps mentioned below.

2. Try on the boss’s shoes.

A bad manager is not necessarily a bad person. Often, the problem is that managers don’t
have any training or skills to manage people. Or they may be insecure, or they might just be
under pressure from their bosses to deliver tough targets.

Understanding your boss’s perspective can enable you to figure out steps to tackle the
situation. For instance, do what it takes to help the boss achieve his or her goals; you will be
appreciated more. “That empathy towards trying to understand your manager…has helped
people,” says Sanjay Pandit, managing director of recruiting firm Manpower Services India.
This is especially the case for employees in functions like sales and marketing and finance,
adds Mr. Pandit.

3. Is your boss inefficient?

If your boss is not doing his job well, and is not interested in improving either, that could
reflect badly on your team’s results and on you. Try taking some more responsibility, even if
means doing tasks that don’t fall strictly under your job profile. If your work can help raise
your team’s delivery rate, you’ll benefit ultimately. Think of this as an opportunity to get
more experience than you normally could if you were working under a boss who micro-
manages. When possible, you could informally bring up your achievements before other
superiors or human-resource managers.

4. You do the work, boss takes the credit.

One way to get around this is to try to become more visible to higher-ups in the organization.
Stand up and be seen in “team meetings, where the boss’s boss is also attending or people
from other functions are also attending,” says Mr. Pandit.

You could also keep a detailed log of your accomplishments, major tasks or projects
completed and how that compares with many of your peers. This could come in handy at
performance review time to show either to your boss who won’t acknowledge your
achievements or someone higher up in case you need to defend your performance.

Silent performers could end up suffering in this case, says Mr. Pandit.

5. Working for a bully.

Does your boss yell, curse, or humiliate you in front of your peers?

If it’s a one-off case, then forget about it. But if it happens often, experts advise taking up the
matter with the boss’s supervisors or the company’s human resources team. “This is…non-
acceptable behavior,” says Rajendra Ghag, executive vice president of human resources and
administration at HDFC Standard Life Insurance Co. Ltd. A company with the right culture
will take action against the manager immediately.

Whatever you do, do not yell back or get into a shouting match with your boss. It will not
help resolve anything. Remember, your behavior is being seen by your peers and others in the
organization, and you don’t want to come across as too aggressive or vengeful. If you need to
vent, take it outside, or home, or anywhere but your boss’s office.

6. Speak up, politely.

Experts say that often managers don’t even realize that they are perceived as bad managers.
“There are many blind spots all of us have,” says Ms. Ghag.

Consider communicating your problem to your manager, professionally and with a positive
spin. For instance, if you are upset that you don’t get enough feedback or are under-
appreciated, approach the boss and say: “I loved doing this project but it would really help
me if you could suggest ways that I can improve and do this better.” Or, if you are given too
short a time to complete a project, say that you could do a better job if you had more time to
do other things like X and Y. The key is to make your point without hostility.

7. Use your company’s feedback system.

You can also try communicating with the boss indirectly through the company’s feedback
system. That could include everything from boxes where you can write anonymous letters to
a “360 degree feedback” system in which a manager is rated based on comments from
various people, including his peers and subordinates. Or, you can go directly to the human-
resource managers with your specific grievances.

“Every company will have some avenue” for feedback, says Vikram Bhalla, partner and
director at the Boston Consulting Group. He adds, however, that the effectiveness of this step
depends largely on how much emphasis the company places on its culture versus achieving
sales and growth targets.

8. Stick it out.

You have tried your best to resolve the problems with your boss, but it hasn’t helped. But you
are working for a dream company and would like to have a long-term career there. Seriously
think about just sticking it out, however unpalatable that might sound. Remember that bosses
also rotate so you won’t have to bear your current boss forever. Or your job function could
change where you don’t have to deal with this person all the time.

9. Time to move on.

Then there are times when nothing seems to work and you can’t take it any more. It may be
time to accept that if the relationship with your boss is too destructive for your peace of mind
and career prospects. Look for another job, either within the company but in another
department, or with another organization. Many companies conduct exit interviews where
you may finally get a chance to elaborate extensively on your frustrations, even if it means
you then walk out the door.
It is generally believed that beautiful women will go for handsome men but in reality, it has
been noticed that beautiful women generally tend to fall for ugly men or men who are far too
inferior in looks than them. Wonder why so?

Money- The first reason which is quite obvious is money. A rich man does not have to look
good. All that matters is that he can buy the world for her. Beautiful women who love to be
pampered, don't mind being paired with rich ugly men. Being a partner to a rich man is her
victory. But at the same time all women don't think this way. Generally it is said that women
look for a stable relationship.

Insecurity - Beautiful women generally are believed to be insecure. They always suffer
superiority complex and are scared of loosing their charm. An ugly husband is anyways
obliged to have her as his partner and generally is mesmerized by her looks and thankful to
his fate. Being with her boosts his confidence and being with him assures her a stable
relationship. A handsome man has many options and can leave the beautiful women any time
for another but an ugly man does not have options open.

Bad Experience – Sometimes when beautiful women experience a bad relationship the want
of a handsome man simply disappears. All they look for at that time is true love and a
peaceful relationship. The look of a man does not matter anymore as long as he loves her and
soothes her pain. Sometimes, for rejected women, getting into a relationship with an ugly
man is a way of punishing herself.

True Love – Women no matter which status they belong to always look for a stable
relationship. A women with this mind set sees beyond the look of the man. If she likes his
intellect, his character, his humor and his behaviour then these matter more than looks.

So, while you may feel odd to see a hot girl walking hand in hand with a ugly man, try and
see beyond the looks. The underlined statement makes looks an insignificant matter.