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The document provides 60 questions to ask a potential spouse to determine compatibility and alignment of values. It is not meant to be an exhaustive list, but rather prompts in key areas like theology, worship, goals, marriage roles, family, children, lifestyle, entertainment, conflict resolution, work, friends, and health. The questions aim to uncover a person's views, values, and expectations around important issues to make an informed decision about marriage.

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60 Questions To Ask A Potential Spouse PDF

The document provides 60 questions to ask a potential spouse to determine compatibility and alignment of values. It is not meant to be an exhaustive list, but rather prompts in key areas like theology, worship, goals, marriage roles, family, children, lifestyle, entertainment, conflict resolution, work, friends, and health. The questions aim to uncover a person's views, values, and expectations around important issues to make an informed decision about marriage.

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60 QUESTIONS TO ASK

 A POTENTIAL SPOUSE 

How to get the best out of a meet


60 Questions to ask a potential spouse
How to get the best out of a marriage meet

Searching for a spouse is a difficult business. Finding where to go in the


first place, how to go about it once you have and sifting through the
potentials to find someone compatible are hard enough, but what happens
when you actually meet someone you want to consider marrying?

What are the main things you need to find out to decide whether the
person you are considering is someone you want to spend your life with?

Feeling stuck? Don't worry, that why we made this guide. It's full of
questions (60 to be exact) that you could ask a potential spouse to see if
your values are aligned. It's not a list of every question you must or even
should ask and we certainly don't recommend you sit there and ask all of
them interview style, but it is a series of prompts and thought stimulators
that you can use to figure out what's important to you and get the
information you need to make your decision.

We've split the questions into different areas, so you can focus on the
questions that are most important to you. You may have further questions
for some of the areas or the questions themselves may provide ideas for
what else you would like to know.

We hope you find it useful.

Praying for your success.

Warmest Regards
The Sacred Vows team
Theology
What is your Aqeedah?
How do you form your views? What is the reasoning-believing process?
Through studying with teachers, books, internet, yourself?

Worship and khidma


How important is communal worship (Jamah, Jummah, Taraweeh, Eid etc)?
Other participation in the masjid or religious groups?
What is your opinion on having spiritual guide?
What are your daily personal devotional practices? (Prayer, reading, litanies,
memorisation)
What would our family communal worship look like?
How important is it to do some service for the Muslim community and what
form would that take?

Goals and Ambitions


What are your plans for the future?
What is your goal or ambition in life?
What motivates and drives you?
How do you define success?
How do you define happiness?

Husband and Wife


What are your expectations of a spouse and marriage?
What is your understanding of the rights and responsibilities of a husband
and a wife in Islam?
What are your expectations about your own and your spouse’s interactions
with the opposite gender?
How are tasks shared in the home: cleaning, cooking, washing dishes,
gardening, car upkeep, repairs, DIY, decorating, shopping for food and
household stuff?
What is an ideal non-special evening?
Who looks after the finances?
Family
What are your family values?
Would you live with family after marriage?
What expectations do you have of the role extended family will play in your
marriage?
How would you resolve conflict between your family and your spouse?

Children
Do you want to have children? If so, when? Why?
How many?
How far apart?
What if we discovered one of us couldn’t have children?
What are the standards of behavior for your children?
What are the appropriate ways to discipline them?
What are the expectations of time spent with them and when they go to bed?
What signs of affection will you show them?
What about school? Home school? Muslim school? Public school? Private
school?

Lifestyle
Own a home or not? Why?
What kind of neighborhood? Why?
How many cars? New? Used?
View of money in general. Saver or spender
Donating to charity?
How do you make money decisions?
Where do you shop? Why?

Entertainment
How much time do you spend in entertainment?
How often should we eat out? Where?
What kind of vacations are appropriate and helpful for your marriage?
Should you have a television? Where? What is fitting to watch? How much?
What are the criteria for movies? What would your guidelines be for kids?
Conflict
What makes you angry?
How do you handle your frustration or anger?
Who should bring up an issue that is bothersome?
What if we disagree about what should be done and whether it is serious?
What is your view of getting help from friends or counselors?
How do you handle and live with differences?
How do you decide what can remain differences without jeopardizing the
relationship?

Work
Who would be the main breadwinner in your marriage?
Should the wife work outside the home? Before kids? With kids at home?
After kids?
What are your views of daycare for children?
What determines where you will locate? Job? Whose job? Religion? Family?

Friends
Is it good to do things with friends but without spouse?
What would you do if one spouse really likes to hang out with so and so and
the other doesn’t?

Health and Sickness


Do you have, or have you had any, sicknesses or physical problems that
could affect your marriage? (Allergies, cancer, eating disorders, venereal
disease, etc.)
How do you think about exercise and healthy eating?
Do you have any habits that adversely affect health?

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