What Does Jesus Teach About Divorce and Remarriage? A Biblical Exegesis of Matthew 19:3-9
What Does Jesus Teach About Divorce and Remarriage? A Biblical Exegesis of Matthew 19:3-9
C A (Dickie) Du Plessis1
Dr Noel B Woodbridge
Abstract
The high divorce rate in South Africa today is having a
devastating effect on society in general, and on the Church in
particular. In view of this serious situation and the great diversity
in contemporary views regarding the divorce and remarriage, the
question arises: What does Jesus teach about Divorce and
Remarriage? In this paper an attempt is made to answer this
question by means of a Biblical exegesis of Matthew 19:3-9,
taking the context of Jesus’ teachings into consideration, such as
the positions of the Jewish schools of Shammai and Hillel
regarding the issue of divorce.
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Dickie du Plessis is graduated from the South African Theological Seminary with both a
Bachelor of Theology and a Master of Theology. This article emerged from his Master’s thesis,
which was written under the supervision of Dr Noel Woodbridge.
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2. Introduction
Although there was a recorded drop in divorces between 2001 and 2002, the
divorce figures were still alarming. For example, one could consider these
statistics from another perspective, namely, that 31 370 dysfunctional homes
were formed through divorce in 2002.
With these statistics in mind, the question arises: What are the three main
contemporary views amongst Protestant Churches regarding divorce and
remarriage?
The second position is not as rigid as the first and can be stated as: Strictly
limited grounds for divorce and remarriage. In terms of this view the Bible
neither condones nor commands divorce, but rather permits and regulates
divorce due to sin. More specifically, a person is permitted to divorce only for
adultery and separation of an unbelieving spouse (PCA Digest 1992:25).
The third view is the most lenient position and can be described as: Broader
grounds for divorce and remarriage. According to this view, the two major
Scriptures dealing with divorce, Matthew 19 and I Corinthians 7 should be
interpreted with more latitude (PCA Digest 1992:25). For example, David
Atkinson argues that other sins, which are just as serious and persistent in
breaking the marriage covenant as fornication, should also be grounds for
divorce (Atkinson 1979:134ff).
It should be noted that the above-mentioned three views differ from the liberal
Protestant view of “no fault” divorce, or divorce on merely humanistic grounds
such as “incompatibility.”
In view of the high rate of divorce today and the great diversity in contemporary
views regarding the divorce and remarriage, the question arises: What does
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Jesus teach about Divorce and Remarriage? In this paper an attempt will be
made to answer this question by means of a Biblical exegesis of Matthew 19:3-
9, taking the context of Jesus’ teachings into consideration.
(Matthew 19:3-6)
Matthew 19:1-2 explains how Jesus left Galilee to begin His Perean ministry.
Verse 2 describes very briefly a journey from Galilee into the district of Judaea
beyond Jordan, which must have taken a considerable time. Jesus’ fateful
journey into Jerusalem was in close proximity to the time of His death. The next
time He would return to Galilee would be at His resurrection (Matt 28:16). At
this time Jesus was constantly re-educating His disciples and preparing them
for what was to come (cf. France 1994:929).
The question posed by the Pharisees stems from the Jewish tradition that was
still accepted in those days. In Jewish law a man had the right to “divorce his
wife” by a simple declaration; there was no trial and no appeal (cf. France
1994:929). It could, therefore, be deduced that the intention of this question
was based on the Pharisees’ awareness of Deuteronomy 24:1-4, which was
still a commonly practised principle in those days.
During the New Testament period there were two Jewish schools of thought
(Shammai and Hillel) that were in opposition to one another. So when the
question was asked, it came in the form of a test. Clark (2004:265) conveys this
position of the schools of Shammai and Hillel regarding the issue of divorce:
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causes, and when she did not find grace in his sight, i.e. when he
saw any other woman that pleased him better.
It is clear that the Pharisees were enticing Jesus into taking sides and having
preference for one or other of the two Jewish schools of thought, but Jesus was
alert to their crafty schemes. The question here was, would Jesus oppose the
liberal view of the Hillel or adopt the conservative view of the Shammai? By
opposing the liberal view of Hillel, Jesus would be condemning the marriage of
Herod Antipas, thus endangering His own life. This was precisely what the
Pharisees wanted (cf. Laney 1990:32).
(Matthew 19:4-6)
Jesus handled the first question posed by the Pharisees in the same manner as
He dealt with the question that was raised in Matthew 5:31-32. Rather than
entering this debate, Jesus again declared that divorce, for whatever reason,
was incompatible with God’s purpose for marriage (cf. France 1994:929).
2. He appeals to the original plan for marriage found in Genesis 1:27 and
2:24. More specifically, He appeals to the fact that God made them
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male and female. The female was physically taken from the man and
through this act, they became one.
4. Jesus clearly points out that God is the One that joins the couple
together in marriage. He is present at the ceremony and is the third
Person sealing His original intent. For this reason Jesus said to the
Pharisees, “Therefore what God has joined together, let man not
separate" (Matt 19:6, NIV). In other words, He was saying, “Stop
severing marriage unions which God has permanently bound together.”
Laney (1990:33) provides further insight into the teaching found in Genesis
2:24, when he divides the passage into the following three sections, each of
which contains a key element that is essential to marriage:
Jesus highlights God’s original plan for marriage by stressing the permanence
and priority of marriage (v 5) (Gen 2: 24). As a permanent institution, marriage
should be seen as an exclusive and intimate union between a man and a
woman that is established through a covenant of leaving, cleaving and
becoming one flesh. Through the act of marriage, therefore, a man and a
woman form a new family unit, which God sees as a pure and holy union that is
similar to that eternal union between Jesus Christ and His Church (cf. Eldredge
2002:15).
In Malachi 2:14 (NIV) God indicates the seriousness of breaking the marriage
covenant:
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You ask, "Why?" It is because the Lord is acting as the witness
between you and the wife of your youth, because you have
broken faith with her, though she is your partner, the wife of your
marriage covenant.
This passage shows that every divorce breaks the covenant (promise) made at
the time of marriage, and remarriage violates the pattern God established at
creation when He made only one wife for Adam (cf. Ryrie 1986:1291).
Furthermore, Malachi 2:14 and Proverbs 2:17 clearly indicate that God sees
marriage as a blood covenant, which is made permanent when the groom and
bride come together as husband and wife. The blood covenant is then
consummated when the hymen is broken. For this reason God condemns pre-
and extra-marital sexual unions (cf. Booker 1981:27).
There is little doubt that the Pharisees clearly understood that Jesus was
indicating a “no divorce” message, not even for the most bizarre circumstances.
They then turn their debate to the Mosaic reference found
Why then," they asked, "did Moses command that a man give his
wife a certificate of divorce and send her away? (Matt 19:7, NIV).
3. The Pharisees were implying that Jesus had just repudiated what
Moses commanded. However, Deuteronomy 24:1-4 does not, in fact,
explicitly command or even approve divorce, but it certainly accepts it
as a real possibility. The Pharisees interpreted the passage as divine
sanction for the practice for divorce (cf. France 1985:281).
The only difference between Mark’s and Matthew’s account, is the following: In
Matthew’s narrative, Jesus allows them to ask the question and in the Markian
account Jesus asks them the same question they were subscribing to.
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In the book of Mark, Jesus reminds the Pharisees of their own belief system by
asking them the question, “What did Moses command you?” (Mk 10:3). In His
wisdom, Jesus draws them into the conversation by using specific words. Jesus
brings finality to their question when He says, “It was because your hearts were
hard that Moses wrote you this law” (Mk 10:5). They could have still continued
arguing, but before they could do so, Jesus gives them God’s ideal law for
marriage (Mk 10:6-9; Matt 19:4-6).
It is clear that there are minor differences between the two accounts found in
Matthew and Mark, and that they have significance for a proper understanding
of Jesus’ teaching on divorce and remarriage. However, the differences
between the two writers should not be seen as devious, but as minor
differences of interpretation.
2.2 The Lord’s response: The Mosaic Law and the Exception Clause
(Matthew 19:8-9)
3.2.1 The Mosaic Law: Divorce is a concession and not a command (v. 8)
Jesus rectifies the Pharisees’ mistake concerning the Law of Moses (v. 8). The
Pharisees in their ignorance felt that the mere certificate of divorce was
sufficient to dissolve the marriage relationship. However, Jesus points out that
because of the corruption of sin and the hardness of their hearts (Matt 9:8), the
Israelites were permitted to divorce their wives (Deut 24:1). Nevertheless, this
was actually contrary to God’s original intention (cf. De Bruyn 1993:167).
Rather than entering this debate, Jesus once again (as in Matt 5:32) declares
that divorce, for whatever reason, is incompatible with God’s original purpose
for marriage. Jesus keeps on placing Genesis 1:27 and 2:24 (God’s original
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purpose for marriage) above that of Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses’ concession
given because of the hardness of your hearts). In other words, Jesus implies
that the divorce regulations were a concession to deal with the result of sin, not
an expression of the way God intended things to be (cf. France 1994:929).
According to Jesus’ response, the norm for marriage remains the vision
embodied from the outset of creation (Gen 2:24) and divorce should rather be
seen as a later concession made because of human failure. Harper (1996:34)
elaborates:
Verse 9 forms the conclusion and key to the entire debate. Much time will be
spent on this verse, since a clear understanding of this will help to provide all-
important answers to many burning questions regarding divorce and
remarriage. Jesus’ teaching here should be considered as what God really had
in mind when it comes to divorce and remarriage.
Jesus now introduces something new that has never been taught before:
An analysis of the key words used by Jesus in this verse, would certainly help
to clarify His teaching on divorce.
Laney (1990:34) explains that, “The word ‘porneia’ does not normally mean
‘adultery.’ The usual word for adultery is ‘moichao.’” Matthew recognises a
distinction between the two terms” (Matt 15:19). The word porneia is often used
in Scripture within the context of marriage, for example:
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An analysis of the two key words used in verse 9: porneia (fornication or marital
unfaithfulness) and moicheia (adultery) provides greater clarity regarding what
Jesus taught and why Jesus used these particular words in His response to the
Pharisees’ questions.
When translating the word porneia, the King James Version uses the word,
fornication; The New King James Version uses the term, immorality and The
New International Version, marital unfaithfulness. Whichever English word one
uses, it is derived from the same Greek word, porneia. In this regard Geisler
(2002:284) states that, “The Greek word, porneia is used to mean illicit sexual
relations of married as well as unmarried people” (Acts 15:20; Rom 1:29).
It should be noted that the meaning of the word ‘porneia’ is not nearly as clear-
cut as ‘moichao.’ It has a wider range of connotations throughout the area of
sexual sin and impropriety, including the act of adultery (cf. Instone-Brewer
2002:156).
Many people interpret the words, porneia (fornication) and moichao (adultery)
to be the same, but, if it were the case, then why would Jesus not have used
the same word? Either He would have leaned toward adultery or more toward
fornication. It is clear that Jesus chose to use these two words specifically to
indicate a concrete and valid reason for divorce. The order in which Jesus
placed the words within the sentence is important: Fornication would be the
cause of divorce. If, however, either of the two parties were to remarry after the
divorce, it would be considered as adultery. Harper (1996:35) explains why
Jesus called the second marriage adultery:
Jesus’ statement in verse 9 (KJV) refers to the exception clause, “except for
fornication.” Some have claimed that the exception clause covers a much wider
area, including physical abuse and even mental torture, so that Jesus
specifically allowed divorce on these grounds too (cf. Instone-Brewer
2002:156).
However, Jesus uses the word, porneia in verse 9 to indicate the exception
clause: the only legal grounds for divorce. According to the exception clause,
Jesus allows divorce on the grounds of fornication (porneia). Now the Shammai
would probably have left out the term, fornication and concentrated on the word
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adultery. However, Jesus said that, “… anyone who divorces his wife, except
for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery” (Matt
19:9, NIV). This would then represent a significant advance on the teaching of
the Shammai (cf. Harper 1996:45).
On the other hand, Laney (1990:33) asserts that, “According to Jesus, mere
formal or legal divorce does not dissolve the actual marriage that was made
permanent by God.” It could, therefore, be argued from Jesus’ exception clause
that God does not recognise divorce at all. This might sound like a contradiction
since God divorced the nation of Israel. However, what needs to be
remembered is that Israel committed spiritual “immorality” by serving other
gods. It should also be noted that porneia (immorality) is the same Greek word
from which the English word, fornication is derived.
Harper argues that, “The ‘exception clause’ is very much in harmony with
verses three to eight, and lines up with what Jesus taught on the marriage
relationship.” Matthew 19:3-8 clearly communicates that man is not to separate
what God has joined together in marriage. The question arises: Why would
Jesus backtrack by allowing remarriage in cases involving fornication? Could
this be seen as a contradiction? It can be said conclusively that no such a
contradiction exists (cf. Harper 1996:66).
It can be concluded, firstly, that the word divorce is identified as the intended
act. Secondly, that the only reason for a legal, Biblical divorce is marital
unfaithfulness (fornication). Thirdly, that there are consequences if there is
unfaithfulness in the marriage (cf. Harper 1996:39).
Many questions have, however, been asked as to “why the account of what
Jesus taught, is only found in Matthew’s narrative?” Harper (1996:39-41)
presents the following four objections to the exception clause in Matthew 19:9:
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3. It is suggested that, “Mark is the ‘harder’ of the two accounts.” If this
were the case, it would then make sense why Matthew included it into
his narrative. It could then be argued that Matthew included it into his
writings in order to explain what Jesus actually meant.
5. Conclusion
The issue of divorce within the ranks of the Church has become a major
concern. Does Jesus approve of divorce and remarriage? A Biblical exegesis of
Matthew 19:3-9 reveals the following:
• Genesis 2:24 brings to light that the strength of the marriage is based on
three principles: leave, cleave and become one flesh, with God at the
centre; these principles serve as the cement that holds the relationship
together; marriage is a monogamous union, which is characterised by
purity and holiness.
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is the consequence of divorce on these grounds. It also implies that if
either of the two parties were to remarry another partner, after the
divorce, it would constitute adultery.
• From the above it is clear that Jesus does not approve of divorce and
remarriage, but that He does allow divorce as a concession, under
exceptional circumstances: “except for marital unfaithfulness” (the
exception clause), because of the “hardness of their hearts”.
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