Healing Relationships

with Zero Point

By

Grant Thomas Connolly

Grant Connolly, CHt

Counselor & Healer
Toronto Healing Arts Centre
Toronto, ON Canada
416-915-3381
grant.connolly@sympatico.ca
website: www3.sympatico.ca/grant.connolly

Copyright © 2004 Grant Thomas Connolly

Acknowledgements
I wish to acknowledge the genius of Larry Nims and his creation of BSFF (Be Set Free Fast). My work simply takes his basic idea and approaches it from
a different angle.

I also wish to acknowledge Judy Davidson and the many incredible discussions we had, and the time we spent refining the process by using it on
ourselves. Many of the things you will read in the following pages grew out of those discussions. In many ways she is the co-creator of the process.

Introduction to Zero Point for Relationships

Zero Point is a simple, easy to learn process that permanently clears away past trauma, upset, anger,
disappointment, and other negative emotions. This manual outlines a simple and surprisingly
effective way to heal our past and the slings and arrows we received from parents, children,
ex-husbands, ex-wives and other significant individuals in our lives.

This is eBook outlines an application of the basic Zero Point proceedure and is specifically focused
on those individuals who are stuck in feelings of anger, guilt, remorse etc, because of the
relationships they are or were involved in. If you’ve experienced divorce or separation of any kind
and still carry deep feelings of anger or unforgiveness, then Zero Point (ZPt) for Relationships can help.
The process safely guides you to release those feelings by quickly and painlessly healing all aspects of
the very relationships where those feelings were first created.

In fact, using the process makes you feel centered and peaceful. And, most important, you are always in
control of the process…

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Overview of the Process

Every one of us has memories of the pain and upset caused by one or more of our relationships.
The pain felt is real and it is widely believed that it takes years to clear out the garbage. Not so! The
process you are about to experience can eliminate the pain and upset of those memories within a matter
of minutes. This is not just temporary relief, but a complete cleansing of the anger, resentment, fear,
upset and unforgiveness that characterizes what we carry around from many of our past relationships.

You begin by choosing a cue word and then read some simple instructions to your subconscious
mind. That’s all there is to do. I told you it was simple. These instructions marshal the incredible power
of your subconscious mind when activated by your cue word, and release or clear old unhealthy patterns
of thinking in the various areas where you direct your intention. You are completely in charge of the
process.

The end result is that you become peaceful about the relationship you were working on. Most
people who have used Zero Point report that what previously got them upset just wasn’t all that
important any more. They were no longer bothered by the deep anger, resentment or whatever it was that
had previously caused them pain or upset.

Clearing a relationship with someone you love, such as a deceased parent, can bring perspective and
loving acceptance while releasing any residual anger, guilt or upset. Likewise, clearing a relationship
with someone you hate can bring peace, perspective and acceptance as well. While you may never
choose to be around that person in the future, he or she will cease to be important in your life and in your
thoughts.

The Zero Point Installation Program

Below you will find a list of common cue words. Please feel free to select a word or phrase from this list
or choose one of your own. Try to avoid words with strong emotional attachmen such as words like
“money” or “sex”. These have definite emotional content attached to them and would lessen the
effectiveness of the process.

Here are some popular choices:

Shazam – Freedom - Just do it – Peace - Make it so - I’m free - Ah Choo
Now, having chosen a cue word or phrase, read the instructions below, aloud if possible…

I hereby set a powerful intention within you my subconscious mind to effect the best of all possible
outcomes by this clearing, and that each time I notice a pattern or patterns I wish to eliminate, as I
say or think my cue word, you will eliminate all such patterns and components of patterns
completely and safely.

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The Clearing Process

Decide on the relationship you wish to heal.

Write down the name of the person you are working with. Make certain your subconscious knows
exactly what you are clearing.

On a scale of 0-10, how intense are the feelings associated with this relationship right now?

As we go through the following instructions to your subconscious, say each instruction aloud or in your
mind and then just concentrate on your cue word(s), repeating it softly over and over to yourself just like
you are saying a mantra. Remember to stay tuned in to your body for signs of release.

1. I set my intent to clear my relationship with (whoever you name).

2. I now clear all of the agreements I made with myself concerning my relationship with (whoever you
name). <repeat cue word until peaceful>

3. I now clear all of the unknown factors that remain unresolved in my relationship with (whoever you
name). <repeat cue word until peaceful>

4. I now clear any agreement made between (whoever you name) and myself or anyone else concerning
my relationship with (whoever you name). <repeat cue word until peaceful>

5. I now clear any meanings I've assigned to any thoughts, feelings, words, actions or imaginings that
concern my relationship with (whoever you name). <repeat cue word until peaceful>

6. I now clear any similar relationships and/or any relationships connected to the relationship with
(whoever you name) in any way. <repeat cue word until peaceful>

7. I now clear my relationship with (whoever you name) in its entirety. <repeat cue word until peaceful>

8. I now clear any anger, judgment, criticism, shame, blame, resentment or unforgiveness that exists
between myself and (whoever you name)

9. I now clear any anger, judgment, criticism, blame, shame or unforgiveness that I may feel toward
myself because of my relationship with (whoever you name). <repeat cue word until peaceful>

Check-in: If, after completing the above, you don't feel completely peaceful toward the person you are
working on, go through each step of the process again, paying more attention to those steps where you
feel any kind of resistance.

Because relationships are the single most important aspect of most of our lives, I wish to relate two
stories on how clearing specific relationship can impact people's lives in a very positive way.

The first story is about myself. A very close relative and I have always clashed. We are family and I
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loved her, but put us in the same room together and within 5 minutes we would be at each others throats.
She can push my buttons faster and deeper than anyone I know.

After working with Zero Point with others on similar issues, I decided to take my own advice and clear
the pattern of my relationship with her. I carefully went step by step through the process, clearing all the
Self-agreements, Unfinished business, Unknown Factors, Roots etc around the pattern of my
relationship with her until I felt peaceful when I thought of her. Just to make certain I hadn't missed
anything, I went through each step of the process a second time. It took me about 20 minutes in total.

The next day my relative called. We spoke on the phone for more than an hour and not once was I
triggered. She seemed like a completely different person. Calm, rational and what's most amazing she
even seemed to have a sense of humour. It was incredible.

Only later did I realize that she hadn't changed. I had. And, for the very first time in my life I started to
believe that I might actually begin to enjoy being with her. Wow. We've spoken on the phone many
times since and I have yet to be triggered or upset by her in the slightest way.

The second story I wish to relate is about a Doctor friend of mine that I exchange services with.
During one of these exchanges he related that his girlfriend was having a great deal of difficulty with her
14 year old daughter. The daughter, a follower of Marylin Manson, was constantly angry and was
becoming physically abusive towards the mother. The mother was literally exhausted with the effort of
trying to help this child, hold down a regular job and see to the needs of her other children. My friend
the Doctor was feeling a strong need to help the mother but didn't know how to do it. He was feeling
angry and resentful toward the daughter for causing so much difficulty. He was also feeling increasing
strain in his relationship with the mother. Not a good situation at all...

Remembering my own experience with my relative, I guided him through the clearing process twice.
First clearing "my relationship with (the daughter)" and then clearing "my relationship with (the
mother)". Before I begin the process I always get a SUD (Subjective Unit of Discomfort) from the client
on the pattern being cleared. In this instance the Doctor's SUD was a 10. He was very upset.

After clearing both patterns his SUD dropped to 0 and spontaneously he began to speak insightfully and
dispassionately about the entire situation. We were both pleased with the result. That was Friday
afternoon.

On the following Wednesday I did my usual follow up. My friend related how his girlfriend's daughter
was "a changed person", and that her angry attitude had "just vanished". I smiled to myself remembering
what I had perceived to be a huge change in my sister. I also remember wondering what kind of changes
would result if we used the process on the entire family...

To me, these two stories illustrate the most powerful aspect of this process. Using Zero Point to heal
your past by healing your relationships can add immeasurably to your peace of mind and the well being
of everyone you come into contact with. All you need do is clear the pattern of:

My relationship with (__________).

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Please note that a full description of the Zero Point Process together with indepth explanations
and real world examples is available for download as an eBook at
http://www3.sympatico.ca/grant.connolly. The cost is only $19.95USD. Here is what several people
have written about their experience with Zero Point:

On the subject of weight control:

One of the things I noticed atfter doing the work. Within a few days I noticed that I had stopped
thinking about what I was going to fix for dinner/lunch/breakfast. It had been a constant thought pattern
before doing the ZPT. I also noticed that I was able to know when I had enough food. Before, I would
keep going untill I was really, really full. I will let you know if it holds and if I notice anything else. If
nothing else works, the program was worth the money just for the eating part.

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I have continued to use Zero Point for myself and am extremely pleased with the results. The thought of
what pattern to clear comes to me so clearly. Each time I have been surprised and each time I have
physically felt the "rightness" of the pattern. I experience the clearing "at every level of my being."

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What follows is the personal account of a very special woman who recently purchased the Zero Point
manual. This woman, who is not a therapist and who purchased the manual for her own use, rose to the
occasion and helped a very distressed soul find a measure of peace. A truly wonderful story...

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Grant, here is an account of my experience with Zero Point that is nothing short of a miracle to me. I
think I sent a post on it to the BSFF Research List in mid May.

The "miracle" involves my daughter who is in her 50's and had been diagnosed as seriously mentally ill,
probably 20 years ago or so while she was living 2,000 miles away from us. (She now lives alone,
about 29 minutes from us.) Although her history in that condition may be of great importance, to make
a long story shorter, in the last couple of years, she has turned against the sources of her support and help
- the "system," her therapist, church, and a number of close relatives. Being so cut off, I was keeping in
touch by visiting her once a week or so or whenever she would answer the door. Even though she had
let me know that my visits were very disturbing. I felt maintaining contact was important and I was the
only person I knew of who had not been rejected and was in a position to make visits. I would
sometimes send a post card instead.

Now for the part Zero Point played. --- The Zero Point manual arrived by post on Thursday, May 6 '04.
I read thru the 20 page manual in short order and followed the steps, "clearing" the first thing that came
to mind. Since I learn best by writing things out in long hand, I wrote the 12 step Zero Point clearing
process down, including the message to the subconscious. That night I had a dream in which I
verbalized extreme disappointment, so I got up about 3 a.m., to "clear" the "master pattern of
disappointment."

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8 o'clock the next morning I received a call regarding my daughter from a custodial worker at the library
in a neighboring town. The worker said when she came to work, "an old woman" was sitting on a bench
outside the library. Upon inquiring if she needed help, my daughter handed her a phone number to call.
The worker added that she thought if my daughter was still there when the librarian in charge for that
day arrived, the police would be called. I had no idea what I could or would do, so I took along my
"crisis folder" containing names and phone numbers of supportive individuals and resources and as an
afterthought picked up and put in my purse, the "Zero Point clearing process" I had written out in long
hand. During the half hour drive to the library, I wished I had thought to take along a bottle of Rescue
Remedy, too.

I found my daughter in a crisis situation, practically trembling with fear. I felt very fortunate that she
received me well and was glad to get in the car with me . Driving along, I was very quiet as she
continued to express her deep fears and concerns. I wasn't sure of where I was going as she had made it
very clear she would never come to our home again because of "devils" there. Driving along, the
thought came to stop at the Health Store to pick up a bottle of Rescue Remedy. The timing was perfect,
the store had just opened.

After taking 4 drops of Rescue Remedy myself, I asked my daughter if she wanted some, too. She did.
Then I asked her if she'd like to clear the fear and I took out the paper on which I had written out the
Zero Point process. thinking that just looking at the paper might be effective in some way. To my
surprise she started reading out loud the message to the subconscious (sc - could be "spiritual center" as
Judith Poole has posted on the BSFF Research List) so I said to pick a "cue word" to access the
subconscious - saying that any word that came to your mind would do. She continued reading the 12
steps in the "clearing process", following the paper I had written out, inserting the word "fear" in the
places I had left blank. When we got to step 3 or so, she said, "I have to do 'blame'." and started over
with setting the intent to clear the master pattern of blame, inserting the word "blame" in the blank
spaces For the 12th step in clearing "blame", she installed "the master pattern of faith, hope and win
love" to replace and over-ride the pattern of blame. Then she said she wanted to do "heartache." (She
misses her children terribly as she lost custody 14 years ago when divorced due to her mental condition.
They live 2.000 miles away and do not keep in touch.) She installed "the master pattern of knowing
your own" to replace and over-ride the pattern of "heartache."

Upon completing the "clearing" of "heartache", she said she was very tired and wanted to lie down in the
back seat of the care. I asked her if she wanted me to take her home (she lives alone) or to her brother's.
She said the later, so on the way there I told her I wanted to tell my husband where I was going and
pulled into our driveway. When I parked, she got out of the car and went into our home with a friendly
spirit. At one point she looked at me and said, "It's a miracle." She stayed at our home over Mother's
Day - and that in itself was a miracle. Mother's Day has been extremely difficult for her - and
understandably so.

More than a month has passed since this experience. Although she has not consistently maintained the
clarity she had on May 7, I still see the experience as a miracle. She is much more accepting of me and
for the past four weeks we have been getting together two times a week to play dominoes. It has proven
to be pleasant for both of us. She is not a bit interested in doing any Zero Point clearing on any issue
that may arise. After our visits I do "Zerp Point clearing" for myself on issues or patterns that I think
would be beneficial for her to "clear." For example, one time I saw her as very rigid in her views. I
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could see that there are ways that I, too, have strong preferences which might well be perceived as rigid,
so I could in full honesty do a clearing of the "master pattern of rigidity" for myself. That approach is
keeping me from being critical and telling her what I think she "should" or "shouldn't" do.

Well, that's an account of what I call a "miracle." As I write this up it looks more like a series of
"miracles."

Best always. C.

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There you have it. I would call this a miracle too...

The full process, as outlined in the Zero Point eBook, can help you completely transform your life
just as it has done for many others. Take charge of your life and order the eBook today. Simply go to
http://www3.sympatico.ca/grant.connolly and scroll to the bottom of the page where you can order the
manual.

Although this book outlines the steps you can take to give yourself the gift of peace in your personal
relationships, sometimes it helps to have a caring, concerned and experienced person empower you
to work your way through the process. If so, please call me at 416-915-3381. There is no charge for
the initial consultation. Or you if you prefer, please email me at grant.connolly@sympatico.ca