Parent Interview Questions

Directions: This assignment is designed to help you explore and better understand the
identities of your parents beyond the traditional epithets of “mom” and “dad.” Like all
things in life, you will get out of this assignment what you choose to put into it, and it is my
sincere hope that you will learn something new about your parents--and maybe even
yourself--and that you come to appreciate them on a much deeper level.

Feel free to jot these down in bullet-points while you discuss each question with your parent(s):

1. What was your favorite hobby or pastime when you were my age? What were you passionate
about?
- I was a baseball player a football player and a basketball player but my passions at that time
or basketball and football and I was always since I was a youngster I was always playing
sports and so's it was something I always like doing that was my social life playing and
hanging out with the guys and so not even watching sometimes I liked your watching
baseball

2. What did your daily routine consist of when you were in high school?
- Well I would wake up probably at around 6:30 and in the earlier years I would take you eat
breakfast in the morning a bowl of cereal and then I would take the bus to school later on
when I was a Junior and senior I would get a ride from one of my friends they would take
me to school and then obviously the school day and every day after school there was a
practice of whatever sport was happening just like you do now right exactly the same and
then I would come home have dinner do homework take a shower and go to sleep and I'm
most of the time I would go to sleep at around nine-thirty kind of like today even if I had
homework I would say I'll forget it I'll do my best and then I'll go to sleep I used to my
sleeping habits haven't changed I was always bad at staying up late

3. What is your fondest memory of high school or adolescence?

- Tufline I do have good memories some not-so-great memories what are the good ones had
to do its fourth to I think it was we were trying to make the playoffs made a play that was
really good and we won the game that made me feel really good while the next game I made
a play that made us lose the game and then made me feel very bad so there's like some of
my Fondest Memories and there's a lot of memories to that revolve around taking the bus to
school like good and bad because in the bus you see a lot of things because it's not just
students because it was public transportation. Dumb criminals and gangsters some
working people he got to see a lot of the city that's part of that

4. What were the biggest challenges you faced or anxieties that you dealt with when you were back
in high school? Feel free to discuss more than one.
- I think in high school one of my biggest challenges where I was very self-conscious because
of the way I looked I looked why feet and took that where are we lived there wasn’t any way
people so I kind of stood out then in addition to that I was very thin and at that time
 everybody was trying to be nice and big and today I'm sure like the football players all want
to be all buff right and be strong and I wanted to be like that too I just didn't have the body
type so I had to body image issues that kind of that was my challenge also in terms of
anxiety I was a very nervous person so anytime I would have to talk in front of a group I
would give Pictionary nervous and then also when I would talk to a girl I would get super
nervous to the point where I just didn't bother cuz I was just so nervous all the time and
how it gets red and out stutter and I was like yeah I'm not good at this

5. Thinking back to high school, what was your ten-year plan? Try to be specific with concern to
school, professional career, and family life. To what extent do you feel like you’ve accomplished it?
- The number one I barely had a one-year plan I had 10 years in high school and I'm not sure
what he's thinking but in most kids in high school yeah maybe they think. I want to go to
college have kids whatever but I didn't even know what if I wanted to go to college I didn't
know what I wanted to do with my life I was kind of just living day-by-day I mean I did well
in school and so as I got closer to graduating I will talk to my counselor and my counselor
suggested a few schools that I should apply to and so I did that I didn't know what I wanted
to be as a professional on the computer scientist now and back then I barely knew anything
about computers and so I kind of discovered that when I went to college now while I was in
high school she did she could have made the decision for me like I was going to stay local
but she said no you should go away. You should go to UC Irvine you should live there so
that's kind of what pushed me into that otherwise I probably wouldn't so because I didn't
have a lot of goals I mean in terms of family life I always knew I wanted to be close to my
family but the professional career I have no idea other than yes everybody wants to be
successful right so I had no idea what I wanted to do so to what extent do I feel like I've
accomplished it while I really didn't have a picture painted so I can't really say I
accomplished anything that I had planned because I didn't have anything from

6. What is the most significant conflict that you have had to overcome in life?
- The most significant conflict had to do with the relationship and that relationship ending
and so that has been in this till you know a conflict that I struggle with and it and it's been
hard to overcome but it's I've been able to move on forward so I think what's important is
that there's always something if you know what I had in life so even whatever conflict you
encounter in your life it's not the end right there's always something else and there's always
a Way Forward right because at some point the conflict. And in my case, your people decide
to move forward and you learn to live life a new way of life right you adjust to it and then
you develop what's a new normal and so yeah you're going to have conflicts in your life and
some are going to be easier to overcome than others and there are hard ones but there's
always you know hope for any situation that you're in so it may feel like there's not
sometimes but there always is

7. What is your biggest regret in life and why? How has this affected you?
- I honestly don't have a lot of you'd regret I think people tend to look back at certain
situations and say oh I should have invested in Apple back in 2010 I don't call those regrets
those are just situations and opportunities that come up in life and sometimes you take
 advantage so I don't think there are any big regret sending in in life other than you know
that again in a relationship-wise you dude get into different situations and certain
relationships where you feel I should have done this differently or I should have done that
differently and so you look back and think you know what if I already ate in a situation
where I could do it again I would do it like this so instead of having big regret I have
learning experiences throughout life where it's an opportunity to figure out okay how
would I want to deal with the situation like this in the future if I had the opportunity again
so not a lot of regrets luckily by me. Hopefully, I don't get it to a situation where I regret
something

8. So far in life, what accomplishments have I made that make you the proudest of me?
- This one it's interesting because honestly there's a lot and and if I look back obviously
there's the sports accomplishments but those are just a small part of the things that I'm
proud of you you're from when you were a little girl doing really well your attention to
detail the fact that you care about what you're working on and do work that you produce
those are all things that actually make me proud because you do really well you know
whatever you put your mind to even today you know we we have gone through many tough
situations in our lives and and it'd be very easily easy to kind of get down and not start and
stop by really paying attention to what you should be paying attention to but he hasn't let
the address to the impact you you view really excelled in a lot of areas in school I'm bored
you have a fact that you're an ASB is is I'm proud of all of those things so the fact that you
want to drive that you are responsible and you can take your sister and your brother all
that those things make me proud I mean it may seem like something a little but to me it's
not to me and make me proud everyday and so make me happy

9. When was a time(s) that I disappointed you? What were you thinking and feeling?
- Luckily there hasn't Ben many if any of these what disappoints me is when you when you
there are times when I see that you don't believe in yourself that you that you minimize you
know what you're able to do because you're able to do a lot and I think you're your biggest
critic at times and so you should believe like you're a very special person that you bring
value to any situation you find yourself in with her at the class whether it's a group whether
they be Sports whatever it is your friends and your circle of friends and so I get
disappointed when you kind of lose faith in yourself to be able to do something or when
you don't believe that that for example if there's a school that you want to college that you
wanted to go to you don't believe that you could you would be able to make it or a college
that you if you want to play sports you feel like you're not good enough to play that those
are the kinds of things that disappoint me when when you when you do those things
because I guess that you're a special year hard-working you're very talented and and you
do multiple areas so that's but there are too many times that you've disappointed me so I'm
thankful for that one of the things that bothers me the most and luckily who don't do this is
is when you guys hide little things from me all right if it's like I asked you a question and
you feel like you're going to get in trouble and you try to say something else like make
something up it could be something silly but those are the types of things but for the most
part that's doesn't apply to you so
10. What are your greatest dreams for me and expectations of me? (Personal, moral & religious,
academic, professional, etc.)
- Well let's try to go in order here yeah I have dreams for you I ate as I mentioned in the
previous question you're very talented you're very special and so personally I want you to
continue growing and being a confident person and knowing that your opinion is of high
value because you're smart and you're creative and all those things matter and so your
people look up to you you're a natural leader so personally, that's the way I see it because of
your personal growth impacts everything else moral religious academic professional all
those things that start with the foundation of what you bring personally talking about the
foundation moral and religious so we're Catholic and so I think if you continue to live the
life that God has taught us and that you

11. What are one or two life lessons that you definitely want me to know as I grow older?
- I've always said that in most experiences you get out of those experiences what you put in
so nothing's going to come and just fall on your lap or be given to you so remember is that
as you go along that anytime you're going to earn a new situation it takes effort it takes
work to make that experience good so whatever you put into it you'll get out of it I think I
told you that you were going into high school I don't know if you remember that but yeah
because I can you get out of those experiences what you could.
- It’s easier to stay out of trouble than it is to get out of trouble.

12. Finally, what are the memories, qualities, and values that you want me to remember of you and
pass on after you are gone? (I realize this is a pretty depressing and somewhat morbid question,
sorry--but it’s so relevant to our novel!)
- Okay so number one I think that Foundation the religious and moral Foundation that God is
the center of our Lives that's that's number one and it's in our Center of of my life and then
family right family are we have any family experiences from all the trip who's taken
Granado's even Big Bear all those have been good experiences and sometimes maybe some
bad things happen but they easy to make for funny stories they had a later time so
definitely God family and then also how we conduct ourselves and yes we work hard but we
also enjoy life and exercise is also important for our bodies are mental health I'm not trying
not to waste a lot of time doing things that are a waste of time that's really don't help us
yeah sometimes it's good to then and I know just kind of veg out and look at your Instagram
or Tik Tok whatever it is but for the most part you know continue building yourself
continue working on your mental health continue exercising and you see me bike riding all
the time so that's something that you'll remember of me and then it's something that's been
in for my whole life just to always be active be outside because God giving us a lot of gifts
and I like using those gifts my my physical abilities are important and at work
professionally I use my mental and you do strength to to do well at work and to do my best
and so always every everything that I do I try to do it the best I can whether it's at home on
a Home Project whether it's when I'm exercising went where I'm working all those things I
think those are ideals and qualities that the work that I produces important and I wanted to
 be the best that it could possibly be in it and whatever it is in my life so I want you to
remember that I'm past that

Post-Reflection: Write a short summary that reflects what you have learned from your discussion
and any new insights you may have gleaned:
Through this interview, I realized that I know my dad very well. We have talked about most of
these topics already and I know the answers to most of the questions. However, I did learn
some new things. Such as the fact that my dad gets disappointed when I do not believe in
myself. I thought that he would have chosen something that was more of an action, but knowing
that he gets disappointed when I don’t believe or have faith in myself gives me a lot of
perspectives. I realize that he might be disappointed in me a lot because I doubt myself and lack
confidence in everything I do so I know I have to work on that. It was nice to get his perspective.
I also gained insight into how my dad was thinking when he was my age. I found it interesting
that he did not have a ten-year plan when he was in high school. It helped me to realize that
sometimes I just need to live in the moment and not worry about the future so much because as
long as you work hard everything will work out and fall into place. I also now know what qualities
and memories he wants me to pass on which is cool because I was gonna pass down those
qualities anyway cause he already passed them down to me. Overall, I liked this project and I
think it gave me some insight into things I have never thought about before.