Quick Tips For Creating Your Personal Profile

Writing a profile should be easy.

But for some reason people tend to over think their profiles.

The main thing to remember is that your profile is about YOU and
what YOU want. It is supposed to represent the reason you are
online.

Note: Do not create a new personality online that you THINK will get
more attention. The attention it will get is from women asking, “Is this
guy for real?”

1. Don’t Right Really Long, Boring, Fake Profiles

Most people think that longer is better. Ever heard of less is more?
Well that applies to online profiles as well. Don’t make it long just to
make it long.

The Female POV:

I asked a few of my Wing Girls what it means when men write a really
long detailed profile:

“A really long profile means either self absorbed, needy (which is

gross) or not that bright. A guy should be able to summarize who is
he in 2-3 paragraphs or less.” – Marisa 34

“Does this guy have a life? Seems like he spent the past 3 months of
his life writing his profile. So not natural.” – Melissa 29

“Too long means too short in other areas ;)” – Jodi 38

“If a man is really creative and actually has something to say in his 9
paragraph profile then I may find it interesting but usually I get bored
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after the first 3-4 paragraphs. If he can’t express who he is in the first
few paragraphs there is something fishy about him.’ –
Eileen 42

“Too long is too much. I have read tons of online profiles and the
ones that get me are concise and to the point.” – Jen 26

My opinion is that there is no need to write women a novel before

they even opt into knowing you yet.

When men do this I call this throwing up on women.

Men do this on and offline.

It means you are throwing up everything about yourself and this is:

- Un-attractive to women
- A huge turn off
- Desperate
- Not showing self respect for yourself
- Needy
- A big step towards online failure

Please note that I am not saying that information about you is a turn
off and will deter women from viewing your full profile. BUT too much
un-needed information is just that, un-needed.

Exercise: Sign up to an online service as a woman and browse

through the men’s profiles. Take note of shorter profiles vs. longer
ones.

Notice how it is possible to say everything without saying too much.

Plus it’s a good way for you to see how women get attacked online.

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2. Do Not Have Spelling Errors In Your Profile

I am not a grammar fanatic, nor am I an anal spellchecking freak. If

you have read any of my materials, you will quickly realize that ;-).
But I must let you know that spelling errors and obvious grammatical
errors are a no, no.

Your online profile is a representative of who you, it’s commercial,

your banner ad, your billboard in time square. So treat it that way.

It is what you are using to get attention from amazing, attractive,

intelligent women. So use it properly.

3. Make Sure You Have The Right Picture

We all know that when women are "window shopping" on online

dating sites, the pictures are super important. Call it superficial or call
it bitchy if you want but I call it reality.

The picture is the first thing we all look at when we are checking out a
profile. So you gotta make sure you are selecting the proper pictures.

I am about to give you a great online dating tip for selecting a profile
picture. This online dating tip came to me from one of my newsletter
members, who I will refer to as X.

X, told me about a recent study, done by Okcupid, which discovered

that women are more attracted to men who look away from the
camera in their profiles pics. I had never really given much thought to
the position of a man’s face in a picture, but after thinking about it, the
study made complete sense. I have cut and paste my email
correspondence with X below that includes links to the study, X's
results from his own private study, and my female commentary.

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Email from X

Hi Marni,

I wanted to tell you about an online dating experience I had which

was incredibly fascinating...
For a number of years I’ve been doing the online dating thing. I’ve
had profiles on Match, Okcupid, Jdate, etc. In every one of these
profiles, I posted photos with me looking directly at the camera.

After reading about a study done by Okcupid, which talked about how
women are more attracted to men who look away from the camera
(something about being more mysterious), I thought I’d give it a try.
Within two days of posting my looking-away photo on Okcupid
(attached), I received 22 new visits to my profile. For many women,
this is probably typical. For your average guy, not so much!

I was amazed at how a simple little profile tweak could make such an
enormous difference. I continue to receive many more profile visits
than I received previously.

There’s some very useful info here...they’ve studied thousands of

profiles:
http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-looks-and-online-dating/
http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-4-big-myths-of-profile-pictures/
http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/dont-be-ugly-by-accident/

I hope you find this useful.

X
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X attached a picture of himself looking away

from camera, which I have included here. My
initial response when I saw this picture was, that
guy is super cute. I would date him.

Here was my response to X.

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My Response:

X, this is fascinating. Thank you so much for sending this to me.

Before I make my comments, I would love to see your old pictures so
I can compare. Can you send me your old pic? To be honest, in this
pic you look super cute and attractive. I can see why you got hits on
your profile.

Marni
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X's Response:

Thanks Marni! I’m attaching 3 of my older pics (pasted below). Feel

free to use on the site. Glad you found the info useful.

My Response:

First off, I want to say that you are still very cute in these pics BUT
there is something kind of sad about these 3 photos.

I can totally understand why women are giving you more attention
with the new picture. It's way more eye catching and really paints a
picture of a moment with you. These 3 photos look forced, cheesy
and too honest, not so attractive. The other picture makes me want to
know more about you.

I think the reason looking off gets more attention because it feels like
you are not trying as hard. Translation ='s I do not need your

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approval. It feels more real and comfortable. Face on, is literally in

your face. It scream’s "look at me!!! Pick me, pick me!!!"

Looking away is subtler and not as aggressive. It makes it less

obvious that you are participating in dating online.

Thank you so much for sending these pics and allowing me to use
them on my site. I know this example is a great online dating tip that
other men can use.
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X's Response:

Thanks so much for your feedback. I think you hit the nail on the head
about not trying as hard. This would be a great service you could
offer.... profile photo critiques! I just can’t believe I’ve been using
these other photos for so many years. These dating sites (some of
them) are a money pit – and look at how much money I could have
saved by using a better photo. No regrets, but I see a lot of value in
photo (and profile) feedback.

The point of the profile picture is meant to give women a snapshot

into your life. Not to show you in numerous uncomfortable and forced
positions. I hate when people have professional headshots. Are you
auditioning for a film or looking for a date??

To help you out, I have put together a list of Rules for selecting your
online dating pictures. These Rules are based on my own online
dating experience as well as feedback from 20 other women.

Rules For Selecting Pictures:

1. Don't have too many pics of you by yourself smiling
2. Have a friend take your picture. Pictures of guys holding the
camera on an angle to take a shot just looks stupid. All women
will see is a loser, with big nostrils.
3. Have 5 pictures max. You really do not need more than 5
pictures of you. Anymore than that is needy, over eager and
OVERKILL.
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4. Choose pictures where you look good. You obviously want to

show your best self, just make sure that the pics aren't from
1984.
5. Test different pictures and do your own study. Select a profile
picture and post for 1 week. Reach out to 20 women and see
what results you get. Then do it again, with a different picture
for 4 more weeks. At the end you will have real results.
6. Types of pictures:
1. One picture of you looking dignified and in authority.
Whether you wear a suit, or you're giving a talk, or maybe
you're just standing tall with a confident smile, this makes
you look strong and powerful...and that's what women find
sexy on a primal level. We want men who can lead and if
we're able to SEE you in a position of leadership, it
triggers our hot buttons.
2. An outdoors picture - Again, on a primal level, women are
attracted to men who have the skills to "survive in the
wild." Ha. In our cavemen days, these were the guys
who could hunt and bring back food or fight off
enemies. Seeing a picture of you outdoors triggers our
need for safety and security and we find THAT comforting
in a man.
3. A picture of you with your friends - Every guy is an ax
murderer until proven otherwise. So showing us that you
have people who enjoy your company is gonna make us
want to a be around you and enjoy your company as well.
4. A fun/provacative picture (PG please!) - If you're gonna
"PULL" women into you online, you're gonna need to
entice them. And what better way to get us highly curious
about the awesome man that you are than to SHOW US
how fun and exciting you are?! Have a picture of yourself
doing something oddly entertaining or even provocative
(no not talking about the shirtless mirror pic here)
because THAT'S gonna be the hook that gets her
reaching out to you FIRST.

I guarantee that if follow these rules; you will instantly notice a

difference in your online dating results.
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4. Things To Include In Your Profile

- A clear explanation of you that expresses emotions. Not just blanket

statements without explanations. Be the ride women want to get on,
not the one that just goes around in circles.

- Add life and passion to your profile. Don’t be afraid to share your
interests because you think women won’t like them. The more
authentic you are about what you like and want the better results
you’ll get. Don’t worry about her yet, but you don’t even know who
she is. She may like star wars figurines or stalk tips. You never know!

- Profile shows charming character/ personality

- Displays a range of interests and hobbies, as well as a range of

knowledge.

- Avoid writing a run on list of things you like, or making blanket

statements about yourself. E.g. I like dogs. If you say I like dogs,
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use the magic word BECAUSE to expand on why you like dogs. It
will attach an emotion to what you are saying and will help a woman
get a visual of you.

- Shows a balanced personality… someone confident but not cocky,

someone passionate but not too sensitive, etc.

- Does not place any “negatives”. Yes, honesty is great… but you
should NOT “spill the beans” in your personal ad.

- Doesn’t “point out” any negatives and sound lighthearted about

them. You are only going to demonstrate a lack of confidence and
pull her attention towards that negative feature/ trait.

- Do not make any sexual remark, even as a joke. Be real careful

about anything you joke about… humor. If a woman does not
know you yet, she will not understand that you are joking.

These quick tips are meant to be guidelines for you as you go

through creating your online profile. Make sure to go back to these
tips once you have completed your profile.

Once the profile is ready, email me at marni@winggirlmethod.com

and I will look over your profile and let you know what I think!

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