New Manager Training Facilitator Guide
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Facilitator Guide
Executive Summary
These course materials were originally designed for Google managers to help them transition from an individual contributor role to a manager role. In addition to building skills,
this curriculum incorporates introspection, perspective shifting, and awareness building. This product has been influenced by years of iteration, internal and external research, and
feedback from new managers. We’ve modified this public version, editing and formatting it to make it as useful as possible for a non-Google audience. We encourage you to
adapt it to fit your organization’s culture and scale.
Curriculum Elements
Unit Title Duration Goals Elements
Kick-off 30 min ● Experienced manager shares anecdotal tips and how managing has been Guest speaker
rewarding and challenging Brief Q&A
● Introduce instructor to the group Program overview
● Agenda preview
Why Manage? 25 min ● Validation of the positive impact managers can have on teams Post-it note brainstorm
● Introduce Project Oxygen manager behaviors Debrief
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Mindset & Values 60 min ● Introduce mindset and the impact on performance TEDtalk video
● Examine how managers can prime team members to operate in a fixed or growth Group discussion
mindset
Emotional Intelligence 120 min ● Explain the importance of emotions in making informed decisions Lecture
● Reflect on an amygdala hijack experience Self reflection
● Share tips for integrating all parts of the brain after a trigger Pair activity
● Develop the skills of reframing
Manager Transition 35 min ● Understand best practices for managing former peers Reading
● Reflect on the transition experience Reflection
● Discuss current challenges with peers Discussion
Decision Making 120 min ● Choose and communicate decision-making style (tell, consult, delegate, Lecture
consensus) with intention Discussion
● Use the skills of advocacy, inquiry, and summary to collect information and build Simulation
buy-in Debrief
● Practice using different styles of decision making in a group setting
● Use tools to bring clarity and transparency to decision making
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You’ll work a lot with your trio, but you will also have opportunities to meet and work with
others. The trios will help ensure that you get to know at least several people well, and support
each other once the program is complete with your goals and peer coaching.
Examples:
● Come back from breaks on schedule
● Let Facilitator know if you need to step out for extended period of time
● Confidentiality
● Listen with respect
● Stay present
● Actively participate
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Prep: Draw two columns on a whiteboard or use two separate flipcharts. On the left side, title
“Pitfalls,” and on the right side, title “Value Add”
Purpose
Instructions ❏ Excite participants about the impact
they can have as manager
● Think about the best and worst managers you’ve worked for…how have they added (or
subtracted) value? Write just a couple* post-it(s) and place on wall in either category. ❏ Reinforce Project Oxygen
(*too many post-its to read = too much time) ❏ Prime participants to learn value add
behaviors
Debrief
Ask for at least two volunteers to read the post-its out loud—pitfalls first
● Left side (pitfalls of management), those who see these behaviors may feel like
managers don’t matter.
● We’ve all heard the saying, “people don’t leave jobs, they leave managers”
● A note about intention - it’s unlikely that any of these managers intended to be bad
managers, and they may not have realized their negative impact. It’s possible that any of
us could exhibit characteristics/behaviors from this column
● Right side shows all the ways you can add value in your role. This is why you are
important! Is there anything else you do that is less glamorous but is really important?
(e.g., compensation planning, performance reviews, hiring, managing low performers)
● How does it feel to read each list?
How much overlap do we see here with the 10 behaviors from Project Oxygen?
Does anyone feel like you’ve already mastered all the skills in the “Add Value” category?
(Likely no one)
Then you’re in good company and in the right place! In this course you will learn the core skills
to prepare you for this challenging role so that you may add the most value to your team.
Mindset (1 hour)
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Based on our last activity, it looks like we all have some learning to do. In this next section we’ll
talk about one of the biggest factors that influences the likelihood you’ll succeed in your new
Purpose
role.
❏ Encourage managers to
consider the possibility that they may
Brief Poll - Show of hands to assess agreement: thumbs up, thumbs down, or sort of hold a fixed mindset about some
● “It is important to me that I don’t appear incompetent” areas
● “You can learn new things, but can’t really change how smart you are” ❏ Assure participants that
● “People can’t change their deepest attributes” management is a learnable skill/
ability that benefits greatly from a
Clearly, there are differing mindsets even within this room! The questions I just asked are growth mindset approach
actually borrowed from those used by researchers to determine where someone is on the growth ❏ Key point: Mindset is
vs. fixed mindset continuum. Let’s take a look at a brief video that summarizes the recent CRUCIAL! (Yours and that of your
research around neuroplasticity and mindset. directs)
Video to introduce Growth Mindset: The Power of belief -- Mindset and Success | Eduardo Eduardo Briceño is the Co-Founder and
Briceno | TEDxManhattanBeach (11 mins, break halfway through for mini-debrief) CEO of Mindset Works, an organization that
helps schools and other organizations
[PAUSE VIDEO AT ~5:31] cultivate a growth mindset culture. The
growth mindset was discovered by Stanford
(Leave cursor at bottom of screen so you can see red bar)
professor and Mindset Works co-founder
● Raise your hand if you’re familiar with this body of work Carol Dweck, Ph.D., author of Mindset: The
● Turn to the person next to you and discuss your reactions so far (max 4 mins) New Psychology of Success. Mindset Works
offers Brainology, an innovative blended
[RESUME VIDEO] learning program to teach a growth mindset
to students, teachers, and schools, as well as
teacher professional development and tools.
You probably noticed that much of the research cited by the speaker was about children.
Virtually all of what we now know about mindset applies to adults too, and in this next activity
we’ll look even closer at some classic research on the subject.
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● Briefly, think of a time when you led or made a decision from your highest principles & thus hopefully helping managers find deeper
values in the past (hint: grey areas & unprecedented situations) meaning in their responsibilities and
● Consider the example of Humility* as a value. How might this show up in your choices potential to impact others. The message here
and behaviors as a manager? (Ask for examples, then reveal the following) is also that our deepest values are especially
○ Be open to and ask for feedback often helpful when faced with ambiguity and
making unprecedented decisions in tough
○ Actively seek opportunities to give & share credit
situations.
○ Share personal stories of mistakes or failures
○ Admit when you don't know something *
HBR: The Best Leaders Are Humble
○ Adopt mindset of being in service to team Leaders, Jeanine Prime & Elizabeth Salib
More likely than not, the other members of your trio identified at least some different values that
are most important to them. To better understand the behaviors, motivations, and beliefs of
others, it’s extremely helpful to learn what they value most. As for yourself, if I were to ask your
team members what you value most and how these values manifest in how you manage, would
they be able to accurately identify your top 1-3 values? If your answer is “probably not,” it might
be worth taking a look at what came up for you in this activity again, to turn those aspirational
values into mindsets you practice every day.
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Introduction: to kick off this next section about emotional intelligence, let’s first jump into an
activity that will help us explore how emotions can actually contain valuable data. We’ll then
Purpose
take a closer look at definitions and practical applications of emotional intelligence.
❏ [Warm-up activity] emphasize that
emotions are valuable data
Emotions are Data
❏ Introduce and define Emotional
Not being aware of how we feel about something or what our “gut” is telling us can lead us to
Intelligence (“EI”)
make poor decisions or indecision.
● For motivating us: Emotions such as curiosity and happiness move us towards things ❏ Cultivate self-awareness of personal
● For protecting us: Emotions such as fear or disgust move us away from things that could triggers
harm us ❏ Examine strategies of emotion
● For understanding ourselves and others regulation & reappraisal
❏ Introduce empathy as an EI skill that
Allow time to silently read quote: can be improved over time, as well
“Denial of our emotions isn’t the only danger we face when we rely too heavily on our as compassion
left brain. We can also become too literal, leaving us without a sense of perspective,
where we miss the meaning that comes from putting things in context (a specialty of the
right brain)” -Daniel Siegel
Emotions alert our attention in some way and influence our attitudes and/or behaviors, whether
consciously or subconsciously. They are usually tied to a human survival need.
Debrief by asking groups to share what questions they’ve come up with. (up to 8 mins)
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Hopefully this brief exercise demonstrated that emotions are inherently valuable data, as you start
to “peel the layers of the onion” by using questions to discover what we can learn from them.
When emotions are named, they become information — the act of identification and
acknowledgement actually soothes the brain. This is sometimes referred to as Emotional
Literacy, and is a core competency of Emotional Intelligence.
The definition provided is the most accepted by main researchers. More and more research is
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telling us how important EI is to success. A key person on this is Daniel Goleman who has
studied this for ~30 yrs. He really put EI into the mainstream.
You can think of EI simply as: the intelligent use of emotions [as data]. To develop strong EI
skills, the first place to start is to recognize and understand emotions in yourself. That will be the
focus of our skill building today. Later we’ll work on managing your behavior in relation to
others.
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EI Deep Dive: Aim for Compassion For the latest research about empathy as a
Transform your experience of empathy into compassionate action. precursor to compassion:
● Greater Good Institute article about
Why? Neuroscience research shows: compassion and why/how to
● Too much empathy can cause stress & burnout for the empathizer cultivate
● Same brain regions are activated in the person suffering & empathizing ● Greater Good Institute of Berkeley
● Compassion instead produces feelings of concern, warmth, and motivation to help the article on empathy vs. compassion
other person ● Preventing emotional burnout of
empathy with compassion
How can I cultivate compassion?
● Ask how you can help, don’t assume you know what’s wanted/needed
● Look for commonalities with your team members
● Encourage cooperation instead of competition in your team
● Cultivate a genuine curiosity about the individuals on your team
● Lead by example — treating others with compassion is contagious!
● Be mindful of boundaries — avoid being an emotional sponge
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To recap…
Empathy : Golden Rule :: Compassion : Platinum Rule
Rather than assume others view things the same way and want the same things as you do, take
the time to get to know them and understand how they see things and what they want. There’s
nothing objectively wrong with Empathy or the Golden Rule, Compassion is just the next best
level as is the Platinum Rule (treat others as they wish to be treated). You may never know what
the other person really needs or wants from you unless you ask!
For example, if you have a team member who has a [disclosed] disability that you are not
personally familiar with, chances are that attempting to empathize with their unique challenges
will only take you so far, and your resulting assumptions about their needs may be wrong or even
harmful. In a scenario like this, the compassionate place to start would be to ask them privately
about what you and others on the team could do to best support them, then focus on taking
informed action to follow through.
Segue to Triggers-- For now, let’s move on to a brief look at some basic neuroscience to better
understand the underlying brain mechanisms of emotional intelligence.
First, think back to a situation at work when you experienced high stress, and/or negative
emotion - to the extent that your ability to perform was compromised.
Hand Model of the Brain* (3 mins) *To prepare, we highly recommend watching
Dr. Dan Siegel has a great representation of the brain, called the “hand model.” Has anyone this ~2 minute video of Dr. Daniel Siegel
heard of it? (allow volunteer to describe if any hands go up!) explaining hand model of the brain
The amygdala is a trigger point for a fast, strong response. When we perceive threat, the brain’s
crisis response still follows an ancient strategy - it heightens our senses, stops complex thought,
and triggers the knee-jerk, automatic “fight or flight” response and a flood of stress hormones.*
This is the amygdala hijack. *Note that the initial stress hormone
response takes between 60-90 seconds to
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● The amygdala hijack has the power to override the prefrontal cortex (thinking brain), flush through the body. If you find yourself
but the prefrontal lobes cannot quickly and directly override the amygdala. It is far experiencing a physical response to the
easier for our emotions to impact thought than the other way around. trigger after that point you are choosing to
● Emotions can affect decision making/thinking much easier than thinking impacts stay upset.
emotion. Your brain cannot make a decision without using the limbic system of the
brain. Emotions are part of decision making.
● Effective decision making involves perceiving and understanding your emotions (self-
awareness) and using that information to guide (not dictate) your next step (self control
and self management).
This self-regulation piece can really help us to be more present for others: help us develop the
ability to really be in the moment, focus on one person, one conversation, one task at a time. Self-
regulation is all about slowing down.
So what? When we bring this into the workplace, it can cause us difficulty. You may Optional video “Just Breathe” with
unintentionally undermine your effectiveness. This is why it is important that we get better at interviews about kids, explaining the
self-regulating our emotions. amygdala and emotion regulation.
Again, recall that situation at work when you experienced high stress, and/or negative emotion -
to the extent that your ability to perform was compromised.
After you review the instructions, share a personal story about when you have been “triggered”
at work, before they work on their stories.
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It’s helpful if you as the facilitator can use a personal example of one stressful situation to
reappraise with each of the four strategies.
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Here are some strategies for how we can use mindfulness to regulate our emotions, especially in
challenging situations:
● Bring your attention to your breathing and physiological state
● Write down what is triggering you and why
● [tie back to hand model] shifting awareness/reminding ourselves what’s going on in our
brain helps to put our “lid” back on, and enables us to choose our response rather than *Researcher David Desteno on how
react to the amygdala hijack mindfulness meditation can encourage
compassion towards others
● Bonus: practicing mindfulness can facilitate the cultivation of compassion*
You got to experience emotions as data. Emotional Intelligence is really about being smart with
our emotions. You now understand how you can prevent or at least recover from “flipping your
lid” by using emotion regulation strategies such as reappraisal and mindfulness.
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Time Slides Topic & Key messages Purpose & Facilitator’s Notes
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Coaching
We’re going to begin with defining developmental “pure coaching,” establishing when you
should coach, examining the fundamental skills of effective coaching, and then introduce a Purpose
model you can use to further develop these skills. We’ll spend most of this module practicing ❏ Articulate what good coaching
these skills. looks, sounds and feels like
❏ Learn GROW coaching model
Defining Coaching: ❏ Hands-on practice of coaching
Google’s Project Oxygen skills and GROW model
● According to Project Oxygen, the best Google Managers are good coaches.
● They give specific, timely and balanced feedback.
● They know how to deliver hard feedback in a motivational way and understand unique
strengths & development areas of each team member.
● They tailor coaching (e.g. to individual motivations, communication styles etc), suggest
solutions, and have regular one on one meetings.
“Pure Coaching”
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● Using a set of skills to actively listen, ask powerful questions, raise awareness around *Sir John Whitmore – considered by
“blind spots,” challenge thinking and deeply held beliefs, make requests for new action, many as the modern-day father of
and design personal programs for their coachee. coaching. He was a Formula 1 race car
● Helps the coachee see new possibilities and take effective action. driver in England and became
● Most individual’s coaching default is to teach and it takes practice and a growth fascinated with how certain people
mindset to be able to effectively facilitate coaching. excelled in their sport over others, when
everyone had essentially the same
training and equipment. He began
Sir John Whitmore’s* definition of the essence of coaching: studying the "inner game" of sports
● Unlocking a person's potential to maximize their own performance. (tennis & golf) with Tim Gallwey and
● It is helping them to learn rather than teaching them. brought his learning and experience
into the business world.
Coaching Continuum
Before you can be really effective as a coach, you need to have an understanding of your
own style and how it can help or hinder the coaching process. Each person has a “default”
mode for coaching, and for many of us, that is teaching instead of facilitating. It is
important to understand your default coaching mode, and build the skills to practice and
maintain the facilitation mode.
LEFT SIDE of the slide: “Teaching” Coach:
● This type of coach does a lot of “telling”.
● They have the expertise and are trying to pass it on to help the other person achieve
something concrete.
● In using this style, the coach is typically drawing on his or her experience to pass on the
skills and knowledge the other person needs to achieve an outcome or to do their job.
● This sort of coaching is appropriate when tasks are to be performed in the “right” way
over and over.
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[Ask for ideas from participants, then reveal the following bullets on slide]
● Choose a location that’s private and quiet
● Silence and put away devices (laptops, phones etc.)
● Bring pen and paper for notetaking
● Schedule a little buffer time before and after
● Ground yourself and/or meditate right before
Sit down in a comfortable position with your feet grounded on the floor, your posture in an alert
yet relaxed position. Close your eyes if you like, or direct your gaze downwards.
Gently bring your attention to your breathing...take a deep breath...and slowly exhale…repeat this
three times, as deeply and slowly as possible. (Long pause) Now, continue to breathe deeply but
let’s shift our attention to what else is going on in our bodies. Begin an internal body scan at your
feet, noticing their connection to the floor beneath you...working your way up to your
calves...knees...thighs…simply noticing any sensations with non-judgemental awareness...pausing
again to feel the effect of gravity on your contact with the seat of the chair, sinking into it a little
more heavily. Then shift your attention gradually up your back, noticing any sensations here and
perhaps adjusting your spine for optimal comfort and alignment... Bringing your awareness now to
your shoulders, are they relaxed? Try to let them go…then scan your arms and hands, all the way
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to your fingertips, you might wiggle them. (Pause) … Gently notice what’s happening in your
neck, remember to keep breathing as you finally bring your awareness to your head. As you
breathe deeper, does it influence any sensations you feel in your body? (Pause) Okay, without
opening your eyes just yet, bring your attention back to this room, visualizing the walls, the people
next to you, and the grounding of your feet once again. Gently, when you’re ready, please open
your eyes.
Thinking back to yesterday— how might (you as the coach) having a fixed or growth mindset
affect how you show up in a coaching situation, perceive/judge the coachee, and the overall
outcome/impact on the coachee? (Pause to see if anyone wants to contribute)
ie. Do you actually believe that this person is coachable in this particular area/at all? Do they seem
to be interested in learning/exploring a new approach to their problem?
Research* actually shows that where you are on the mindset continuum (leaning more towards *Managers’ Implicit Assumptions
Growth or more towards Fixed) with regard to your assumptions about others has a significant About Personnel (Heslin &
impact on the accuracy of your performance appraisals as well as your likelihood to participate in VandeWalle, 2008)
coaching.
Therefore, it’s essential that we as managers/coaches are mindful of the mindset we bring to
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coaching situations, and check any assumptions we might have about the people who are
entrusting us to coach them.
So, perhaps you know that you lean towards a fixed mindset when it comes to your beliefs about
the malleability of personal attributes such as competence or work ethic. What can you do to
intentionally train yourself to adopt more of a growth mindset, given the potential payoffs for your
role as an effective manager and the success of your team?
Self-awareness is the first step— good news, now you already have this!
[if no one mentions this, offer the following tip] Remind the coachee of a time they successfully
accomplished a task or learned a new skill that they thought was impossible / they were incapable
of. If you don’t have a long history with them, ask them to reflect on a time they accomplished
something they didn’t think they were capable of.
In pairs, decide who will be the speaker first and who will be the listener
Two rounds, two minutes each:
● Speaker responds to the prompt: Talk about an event in the past two weeks that had some
emotional “juice.” Could be joyful, surprising, fearful, etc.
● Listener practices empathic listening... listens for two minutes while reflecting back what
they heard and check for understanding. Focus on values, emotions and body language…
continue to reflect back until Speaker is satisfied.
[Switch roles]
● Debrief. What was it like to be listened to?
In the same pairs, the person [most] facing the front of the room will be the listener first and the
other person shall be the speaker
Two rounds, 1 min each:
● Listener practices non-empathic listening. (Distracted, interrupt, etc.)
● Speaker responds to the prompt: What gets in your way of being the coach you want to
be? How could you be a better coach for each of your reports?
[Switch roles]
● Debrief. How was this experience different from the last?
Time allowing, Pick 2-3 people at the end of this third minute to volunteer takeaways.
Ed Batista quote
“Focused attention on coaching is more important than the time spent. What matters most is
listening so the other person feels heard. Eliminate distractions and cultivate a sense of presence in
the moment.”
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Ask open-ended questions to facilitate coachee’s own insight Facilitator tip: Spend a moment on the
This next coaching skill is asking open questions. Think about open questions in this way — you structure of a question: is it Open,
want to focus on the what and how and avoid the why. Some questions to get more information Closed, Leading, Multiple Choice? We
(who, when, where) may be necessary. have habits in how we shape our
● The BEST questions: What and How encourages expansive thinking questions. Illustrating different
architectures of questions helps people
● Info-gathering questions (Who, When, Where) – use sparingly, but as needed
catch their habits in action.
● Why questions. Avoid these, they sound judgemental and put people on the defensive,
even if it’s not your intention. Try rephrasing Why questions with What or How, e.g.
“What factors did you consider?” “How did you decide what to do?”
● Note: Avoid phrasing advice as a question, e.g. “Have you tried XYZ?” or “Do you think
XYZ could work?”
GROW Model (Intro, 1 min) We will be using a simple, effective coaching model today called
“GROW”. This is a light-touch, helpful tool for guiding a coaching conversation. It’s not meant to
be restrictive, but to be used adaptively based upon your own style and the needs of the person
you’re coaching.
Although it is a 4-stage framework, the coaching session may not always be linear in format;
depending on the individual, there may be times that you go through the model twice in one
session (aka “peeling the onion”), or come up with options before you have established a very
clear goal – this is not ‘wrong’ – and proves the flexibility of such a tool.
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(G) Goal
You may start the session by simply asking; ‘What is it that you want?’ However, it is rare that you
get the perfect goal in that first instance! It is our job as coaches to delve more deeply to clarify the
goal further. Don’t be surprised if the goal evolves as it becomes clear that there is a more
powerful underlying issue than initially identified by the coachee!
● 1st Level: What do you want to achieve overall?
● 2nd Level: What is your goal for our time together today?
● Once you and the coachee feel that there is sufficient clarity in where they want to
be/do/have, you are ready to move on to the next session.
(R) Reality
Ask lots of questions. Don’t be surprised if you have to go back to the goal and clarify it again. It
is important to ascertain the real situation, and also to attempt objectivity from the coachee, which
is often hard for them to do without some good coaching questions. Try to get the coachee to use
all their senses, and to see their situation through many different angles/perspectives, thus raising
their awareness of the self and others.
(O) Options
This is the part where you encourage the individual to be expansive and brainstorm all the potential
avenues for achieving their goals before they close down and decide on actions. Offer your own
ideas only after your direct report has shared hers/his, if at all. This is best achieved by the use of
many open questions, having built sufficient rapport with the coachee towards a state of openness
and willingness to move forward.
(W) Will
This section pulls it all together for the direct report, so they can walk away knowing how to move
toward their goal, which converts the discussion into a decision.
● This is not a prescriptive model, there is a lot of iteration and often 50% of time is on goal
refinement and reality testing circles. Important because the risk is that the goal is unclear.
● As you start to ask questions, the coachee will gather clarity in their mind about the goal,
and the journey starts to map out before them.
● It is also worth following through at the end with the real test, asking: “On a scale of 1 to
10, how likely are you to achieve this goal?” This will help both you and the coachee
really test the likelihood of success.
● Another form of confirmation may be that the coach chooses to summarize the action
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Facilitator: Share a personal story on how you have used these steps.
Part of your homework last night was to come ready with a topic in mind that you want peer
coaching on - for example, your greatest current management challenge. If you haven’t already
decided on a topic, please do so now. We’ll do some practice now, and the remainder after lunch.
Are there any questions before we begin?
Intro to Feedback
The fact is, it can be uncomfortable to give feedback. The antidote to being uncomfortable giving
feedback is be clear about your intention and your role. Purpose
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Today you’ll be learning techniques to make your feedback come across the best way possible.
Feedback, even if a little painful to hear at first, is ultimately a gift.
[Hint: as you give the instructions for this activity, don’t prompt by saying “positive”, “negative”
or ways to give the feedback “over email”, “in person”, etc.]
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If you are giving enough feedback, you’ll notice a lot more things to appreciate than to fix.
Look for what is going well and say it to the direct report. You’ll find opportunities to do this
pretty frequently - so take them.
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Positive/Appreciative Feedback: Example “A” (top) is feedback about a client discussion that
went really well.
Why should we take the time to use SBI for positive feedback? So it sticks. We often are too vague
on positive feedback - making it less memorable. “Hey great job!” Don’t make only your negative
feedback memorable! Usually, we don’t remember positive feedback as clearly as we remember
negative feedback. You might remember it for years. Negative feedback is like Velcro, but positive
feedback can roll off you like a Teflon coating.
In fact, our brains are wired to naturally seek and find negatives. We, as human beings, are already
good at that. Our brains are hardwired to respond to threats faster than registering happiness or
gratitude, so our direct reports will be listening firstly for negative feedback, and it's up to us as
Managers to create a space where positive and constructive feedback can co-mingle and not feel
like a threat. By taking the time when we give positive feedback to be really clear, to describe the
situation, behavior, and impact, we make the positive feedback memorable.
Also remember that well-meaning positive feedback about one’s intrinsic ability can actually
hinder one’s growth and receptivity to challenges, such as saying “You’re so smart.” This is the
kind of praise that causes us to get stuck in a fixed mindset.
Rather, focus on praising their process, effort, strategies, grit and/or resilience.
SBI is really sharing an observation. But how do you make that into something that is
actionable?
SBI & What’s Next
What comes next is a discussion and clarification, creation of options, and agreement on next
steps.
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You: “About the draft presentation, I was hoping to take a look at it. How is it going?”
● Diagnose: is the reason he gives you for why it’s not ready SKILL or WILL? Both?
● Boost SKILL with more guidance through coaching or advice.
● Boost WILL by bolstering his confidence or interest in the task.
It’s easiest to give feedback when you set expectations upfront very clearly. It’s less awkward,
because you’ve set an expectation, and both the direct report and you know it. If the expectation
isn’t met, be sure to bring it up.
Special Situations
In some cases, delivering constructive/developmental feedback can be particularly challenging.
Let’s look at some examples.
Help them understand how you perceived it even if they disagree with your interpretation.
● e.g. “You may not think it’s rude to say that, but I was offended by it.”
● “You don’t think it’s a problem to do X, but I do” (for example)
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In some cases, you may need to take a breather and discuss again when calmer.
Interpersonal Feedback
This is SBI, followed by “I need” or “I want” explaining clearly what SUBSTITUTE behavior is
wanted.
[Read the example]
● I need you to wait and listen as team members give ideas.
● I want you to consider when to back down or drop an issue
Feedback Triangles
A Feedback Triangle is when a peer of your direct report comes to you, or a fellow manager
confides in you (“please don’t share this”) with insight about someone on your team. They want
you to pass along the information, instead of them. (red arrow)
You can promise the person with the feedback that you will follow-up with your direct report
afterward to see how it went. Use this as a coaching opportunity - share the SBI framework with
them so that they can formulate meaningful, specific and actionable feedback.
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Feedback Practice Instructions (in original trios, 1 hour not including break)
Since giving feedback is one of the most important and challenging responsibilities of a good
manager, we of course want you to get a chance to practice it. Refer to your workbook for
instructions. Please be back here in one hour, if you leave the room.
On your own:
● Reflect and prepare using questions in workbook (up to 10 mins)
In your trios, take turns playing the roles of Manager, Direct, and Observer:
● Manager: Explain context to trio members (2 mins)
● Manager & Direct: Practice feedback conversation (5 mins)
● Observer & Direct: Give at least 1 suggestion or observation (2 mins)
● Manager & Direct: Practice the feedback conversation again (5 mins)
● ALL: Debrief and provide meta-feedback (5 mins)
Quality of Feedback
Ask yourself, “Do I give the same quality of feedback to each team member?”
Often, unconsciously, we don’t. Studies show that people tend to feel more comfortable giving
feedback to people who are very like them. (You also may realize that you feel more comfortable
having a career conversation with someone like you - same university, same age, etc, and are more
open giving contacts and making connections for that person.)
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Consider all the ways you could be similar or different to your direct report - it might not simply be
a gender or race difference, but a personality or thinking type that is different. Maybe you are quiet
or understated, and your direct report is bubbly and talkative.
The more different you are, along whatever dimensions, the harder it might FEEL to coach him/her.
It's difficult, but we each need to overcome this and give feedback anyway.
You may also want to tweak your routines so you have enough time and perspective to give good
feedback for this person. Are you getting to know their projects enough? After thinking about this,
one manager decided to make his one-on-one times longer for direct reports who were in a different
office from him - so he had enough time to get into a real discussion.
Consistent Criteria
Ask yourself, “have you outlined expectations and anticipated outcomes for your direct report?”
Have you defined criteria for success for each person on the team? Using criteria that are clear
creates a sense of fairness once you start evaluating your direct report.
Another point about consistent criteria is this: as you judge the direct report’s performance or
interpersonal skills, think about how you would evaluate that behavior if it came from a different
person, e.g. a different gender or social group.
Would what the direct report did be typically seen as fine if it were done by a male, yet the direct
report is a female and is judged differently? For example, if the person said, “I completely disagree
with this direction” would you consider that aggressive if a woman said it, but assertive if a man
said it?
Be mindful of these biases and hold yourself accountable to applying clear criteria consistently.
(insert example: assertive/driven vs aggressive/pushy)
For example: “That direct report has a child and probably wouldn’t be interested in a role on our
team that could involve a lot of travel, so I won’t bring it up." Instead, you should bring it up
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And lastly, don't assume that you cannot provide honest advice to someone because they "may not
be able to handle it". Assumptions are often made based on unconscious stereotypes or biases of a
particular group, and the key is to keep communication and messaging consistent for all. Bottom
line, say it anyway, but say it nicely.
The more differences there are between you and the other person, the higher the possibility that
your message wasn’t received quite as intended. It goes through more filters and cultural
assumptions getting to the other person than you may anticipate.
You might say to your housekeeper: “The floor is dirty” meaning “The floor is dirty. Let’s get it
on the list to clean,“ but your housekeeper might think, “Are you going to fire me?”
Ask to see what the direct report has understood and clarify the message if needed. Eg., pause and
say, “Let me check, did you remember it differently? How do you see it?”
Think to yourself: “Which of these can I commit to doing better on? Why?”
[Give a moment for people to think. If group is conducive, ask a few people to share what they
thought, even just a 30 second discussion.]
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It’s your challenge and responsibility as a manager to say something, even if it’s difficult. That is
at the heart of developing people and making our company a better place.
Use SBI!
Decision Making
With this next section on decision making, we’re broadening the tools and practices to include the
role a manager plays in decision making. The added complexity is in using the previous tools and Purpose
practices in the context of a team. ❏ Increase awareness about
managers’ “default decision
Ask the group to discuss at their tables:(10 mins) making style”
● Recall two decisions you found difficult to make in your team(s) ❏ Equip managers with several
● What made them difficult? decision making strategies and
● How were opposing views handled and what was the impact? context for when to use each
❏ Simulate decision making within a
group under pressure to test
Debrief (5 mins)
strategies
The purpose of asking these questions is to elicit the kinds of issues and concerns they raise about
decision making. When they report out their responses, categorize their answers into concerns
about people, process, and structure.
E.g. We can’t seem to come to an agreement (people), we don’t know who the decision maker is
(process). When reviewing the list, remind participants that we will be covering tools that can
help with process, and we will be covering practices for helping the people interaction during
decision making.
Opposing views are critical to explore using strong listening skills and open-ended questions
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because they uncover data and validate/include those with diverse points of view. Ultimately, we
can arrive at better, more informed decisions. Let’s look at some skills that can support you in this
balancing act.
Typically we lead with advocacy. By including (even leading with) more inquiry, you expand the
pool of information while making others feel heard/included. As a leader, summarizing what has
been heard and the path forward builds credibility and clarifies understanding.
● Advocacy
○ State views directly, while open to influence
○ Be explicit about your reasoning, interests, concerns & conclusions
○ Offer examples & data
○ Make points one at a time
● Inquiry
○ Explore other's reasoning, concerns and interest
○ Encourage challenge, questions and feedback
○ Test your understanding
○ Solicit a range of ideas
● Summary
○ Synthesize the others’ views in your own words
○ Test your understanding of the others’ concerns
○ Capture their full meaning; express their situation
[WHAT] are you solving for and are the objectives clear to everyone?
● Address root causes, not situational fixes
● Establish priorities for what to tackle (and what's out of scope)
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Keeping in mind that emotions are data, take stock of how you and others feel about the decision
at hand. Consider, for example, why people care and what they stand to lose.
[HOW] will the decision be made (e.g., consensus driven; how will data be used)?
● Define your exception criteria (which should rarely apply)
● Make tradeoffs explicit
● Help scale good judgment by communicating rationale for decision after it is made
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The importance of a Consult decision is that the owner of the decision announces that s/he will
still make the decision; however, they are influenceable by input from the group. You can tell the
group where you are leaning or not, but you are persuadable. Often groups will fall back to
Consult when they experience being stuck in Consent/Consensus and time is of essence. But be
aware that if you shift from Consensus to Consult, you aren’t doing it too soon. You also want to
take care to announce the shift and get agreement from all.
When you Delegate, you are giving the ownership of a decision to an individual who then owns
the decision and decides how s/he wants to make the decision.
What types of decisions are mainly used here? How do you see groups making decisions?
Consent / Consensus
One nuance to decision making in a group is the difference between Consensus and Consent. It’s
subtle and useful. Consent means that I can live with it. I may not believe it is the most elegant or
best way to go at the problem, but I can live with it. Consensus means that I believe, along with
everyone else, that this is the best way to approach the issue. In Consensus, I don’t agree until I
believe it’s the best decision. Using Consent can help people size up the importance of the
decision and test whether they can live with the decision, given its importance and the need for
speed.
Other challenges
Let’s frame up two additional challenges to be aware of when managing decision making. One is
our cognitive biases.
Unconscious Biases
So when it comes to decision making, the neuroscientists and cognitive researchers tell us that
initially we make decisions by intuition, and then we reflect and rationalize it. Our confirmation
bias has us build a rationale with data that supports our initial decision. We have to work with our
biases so that we can learn and question this tendency.
There are other biases as well. The availability bias subverts us to believe we’ve gotten all the
information required and we don’t test further. In groups, members tend to believe they don’t need
to go outside the group for missing data. The anchoring effect is common in performance reviews
because we’ve made a judgment given our last impression. And as humans, we’re more averse to
losing something than to seeing the potential for gain. In-group Bias is the tendency for people to
give preferential treatment to others they perceive to be members of their own groups.
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The main points that we should take from these and other biases is that we can be more humble in
our convictions, and that our goal in decision making is to reach the most informed decision with
the best internal commitment. Because of our unconscious biases, our personal goal should be to
be Less Wrong.
Emotional Triggers
The second challenge for us in the interpersonal realm is that we will get emotionally triggered
when making decisions, because we should be bringing up differences in opinions and judgments,
and when these start to cross the line to the personal arena, we can “flip our lids.” When we are
triggered—when we feel threatened or embarrassed—we will fight, flee, or freeze. We start
thinking the other person is crazy and won’t listen to reason. We believe we have the answers and
that they just don’t get it. I start limiting what I say, for fear that it will explode the room or that it
will be a career-limiting move. What we learned yesterday is that when we’re emotionally
triggered, we need to reappraise and reframe our thinking and feelings in the moment.
The inner coach can suggest other things to tell ourselves. We can shift our internal voice from: “I
need to push my point harder, they don’t get it. How I see this situation is true. They need to come
around,” to “Let me slow down and be intentional with my response, I have a strong perspective
and it’s one of many, let me suspend judgement for the moment to listen to the others first, then
respond with mine and see if I can move the conversation to what’s best for the company. I may
not have THE one/only best idea.”
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There are many models we could use for decision making and role clarity. This type of tool will be
most useful when you’ve gone through a reorganization, added members to your team, or changed
your organizational focus. We'd like to focus on identifying who makes the decision, who has
input but no decision making authority, and how we communicate the decision to all relevant
parties. Using RACI can help simplify complex projects -- including those with multiple
stakeholders -- by helping project managers clarify decision making.
The goals are to provide role definition to team members and increase transparency in decision
making, especially in a matrix organization or a cross functional project team.
● R–Responsible - Who will do the work to complete the task? The R is executing to
make something happen. There can be multiple Rs for a task.
● A–Accountable - Who will make the final decision? The A owns the process,
problem, or project. There usually should only be one A per deliverable/task.
● C–Consult - Who needs to be consulted? They have knowledge and may make
recommendations and help with decisions. There might be many Cs, both within and
external to the team.
o Who to consult
▪ Start by asking, “Who else cares?” so you can generate a list of
people and identify which RACI roles they might fit into.
▪ Even if the A is clear, you may need to consult with more senior
people because they could potentially question or overrule a
decision later, so it’s important to make sure you understand their
views and positions on the topic.
▪ You may need to consult with R’s, to make sure you understand
how they see the task.
▪ You may need to consult with people who have expertise, strong
opinions, or vested interests on the topic, or who are responsible for
people and resources that are necessary to implement the decision.
o Positioning
▪ It’s helpful to be clear with C’s that you value their input, and that
you are trying to balance the needs and interests of multiple
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stakeholders.
▪ Depending on the scope and complexity of the decision, sometimes
C’s should be consulted early in the process to define their needs
and desires for the decision, and then later to preview the likely
decision or a couple of options under consideration.
● I–Inform - Who needs to be informed? They don’t need to be consulted, just
informed after a decision is made. There might be many I’s, both within and external
to the team.
Share quick example from your own work (either where you used RACI with success or where
using it could have led to a better outcome)
Good questions to ask to identify C’s and sometimes I’s is, “Who else cares about this issue or
decision?” and “What’s the history and context of this issue?” Those are the people or teams
you will want to include at the beginning and ensure their roles in decision making are clear.
Asking, “Who else cares?” can help identify these stakeholders early in the process.Sometimes
roles are predetermined, and you want to be clear that you need to have certain people in
certain roles. Do your best not to give an illusion of choice if there is no choice to be made.
Stakeholders may disagree with assigned roles. It is important that after roles are assigned
everyone is in agreement about the assignments (e.g., the A needs to know he or she is an A
and be ready to be held accountable). In some cases it may be possible to define roles in
collaboration with stakeholders to arrive at consensus.
RACI Example
● Review your chart and be aware of:
○ No R’s or too many R’s
○ No A’s or more than one A
○ Lot’s of C’s or lots of I’s
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