50 BDSM Ideas for Kink Connoisseurs

How many of these BDSM games have you played?

1. Age Play
Age play is for BDSMers who enjoy role-play that involves acting and being treated
as if they were another age, generally younger than their actual age. It could
involve a �Daddy� dominant and his younger submissive or even touch on the taboo of
incest.

Others put on their diapers and go full-on baby for a caregiver. BDSM kinks can
enter the scene with spankings, punishment, and other games of dominance and
submission.

2. Bondage
Bondage can be as basic or elaborate as you want it to be. Those new to bondage can
keep it simple with silk scarves or cuffs. For real enthusiasts looking for bondage
ideas, consider looking into specialized forms of bondage such as shibari rope
bondage and mummification.

Read: Bondage Ideas: 10 Types of Bondage Play

shibari bdsm
The beauty of shibari rope bondage.
3. Biting
Biting is another one of those kinks that�s easy to give a go when you�re new to
BDSM. Who doesn�t like a little nibble on the ear? However, in a BDSM scene, biting
is generally more than a nibble, potentially leaving bite marks.

There are plenty of guides to erotic biting online, so be sure to read up before
any serious chomping. We�ve had a couple of Kinky Confessions involving biting that
you can check out here and here.

4. Breast Torture
Breasts are very sensitive and often the focus of varying forms of pain and
pleasure during kinky play. Breast torture could involve bondage techniques, wax
play, suction devices, whipping and flogging, nipple clamps, temperature play, and
more.

Here are 6 Kinky Breast Play Tips for those just starting out. And see our Guide to
Breast and Nipple Torture to add a little more sting.

5. Breath Play
Also known as erotic asphyxiation, breath play involves forms of smothering,
choking, masks, and other methods of cutting off the oxygen supply. It may involve
applying pressure to the carotid arteries, restricting the intake of breath
directly, or even going underwater. It can lead to euphoric lightheadedness and
bigger orgasms.

This type of BDSM play is certainly not without controversy as it can be extremely
dangerous for obvious reasons. Do not attempt without proper education and safety
precautions, and avoid autoerotic asphyxiation altogether.

BDSM breath play through strangling.

Breathplay for advanced BDSM lovers only.
6. Caning
Caning is a form of impact play utilizing a cane or stick, usually made of rattan
and most often applied to the buttocks. Caning as a form of judicial or school
discipline was once widespread and is still legal in some countries.
I can imagine some teacher/student role-play might be a good start for
incorporating this kink. Read our article BDSM Caning for Beginners if you�d like
to try.

7. Chastity
Chastity play is a game of control, usually between a dominant and their
submissive. It might involve a chastity device that restricts the sub�s ability to
touch or use their genitals, such as a chastity belt or cock cage. It might be part
of one particular scene or an ongoing game of teasing and denial.

For more details, see Tips and Tricks for Chastity Sessions.

8. Collaring
Playtime aside, a submissive in a D/s relationship will often wear a collar or be
�collared.� The collar symbolizes their submissive status and may even be as
meaningful as a wedding ring is to others, such as in the case of those who engage
in collaring ceremonies.

A collar can take many forms, even a simple necklace, when it�s important to be
discreet. Within BDSM play, a collar will usually have a ring that allows for
restraint or the addition of a leash.

Read: 9 Types of BDSM Collars

Collared submissive woman with leash.

Submissive woman with leash and collar.
9. Cock & Ball Torture
The mere thought of cock and ball torture makes most men cringe, but CBT is more
prevalent among BDSM lovers than you might realize. This kink plays on erotic
humiliation, masochism, and the desire to please and be dominated.

As you can imagine, there are many ways to bust balls. This wiki page has a good
listing of the various cock and ball torture devices. Other methods include
grabbing, kneeing, trampling, or other BDSM games such as electrostimulation,
sounding, wax, and temperature.

10. Cuckoldry
Simply put, a cuckold is the partner of an adulterous woman. But in this day and
age, cuckoldry isn�t really about being the victim of a cheating spouse. Cuckoldry
is a form of play in which the cuckold is deeply turned-on and erotically
humiliated by the exploits of his partner. He may wait at home feeling a mix of
anguish and pleasure or watch directly without being able to participate.

Some may be surprised to find cuckoldry on our BDSM list, but it strongly involves
domination, submission, and humiliation.

Looking for cuckolding play partners? See How to Find Cuckold Couples and Bulls.

Bull having sex with your wife.

Watching her with a bull is a cuckold�s delight.
11. Cupping
The origins of erotic cupping may go back as far as 3000 years. In this ancient
practice, cups are heated before being applied to the skin, causing suction and
increased blood flow to the area.

Cupping is less intense than the stimulation of bondage or flogging, but when it�s
done to an erogenous zone, the sensation and pressure can be powerful.

12. Domination and Submission

Most of the BDSM play types listed here involve some level of dominance and
submission. Obviously a big part of BDSM, many kinky sexual games and relationships
revolve around this concept.

For instance, a D/s relationship could have a Master and submissive maintaining
their Dom and sub roles 24/7. At the same time, some couples will just use
dominance and submissive behavior in the bedroom or choose to switch at times.

For some Dom/sub play and bondage ideas, see Domination-Submission Games for Kinky
Couples.

Dominant Woman on Man

Domination and Submission are at the heart of BDSM play.
13. Edge Play
Edge play refers to kinks that are considered more risky, such as breath play,
knife play, or other controversial kinks. But it�s more subjective than that.

Edge play is about pushing the boundaries or �edges� of what a person is

comfortable with, or what they can handle, regardless of the scene. Because of
this, safety precautions and communication before and during are essential.

Read: Edge Play: Taking BDSM too Far?

14. Electrostimulation and Electro-Play

Some kinksters love to bring devices and toys into their BDSM experience, and
electrostimulation takes things to the next level.

Electro play involves toys or implements that use electricity, including EMS units,
violet wants, or even an electric fly swatter!

The sensation is generally kind of prickly and not as painful or scary as you�d
expect, but those expectations are part of the mental stimulation of this type of
play.

Read: Incorporating Electricity into Advanced Kink Play.

Electrostimulation in BDSM play

Electrify your senses.
15. Facesitting
There is a level of dominance at work when someone sits upon a partner�s face,
whether male or female. Yep, facesitting can go both ways.

Although the enjoyment of face-sitting is not limited to BDSMers, the position

lends itself well to a submissive�s pleasuring of their Master or Mistress.

Read Tia�s post, The Fine Art of Facesitting, for some woman-on-top face-sitting
tips.

16. Feederism
Those who partake in the feederism lifestyle are called feeders and feedees. In
these relationships, the woman is often the gainer. Her partner encourages her to
gain weight with varying levels of control.

This idea of control � controlling what another eats and how their body develops �
puts this kink within the realm of BDSM.

Feederism is also related to the fat fetish, as the goal is usually to plump the
feedee up to a very large size, bringing additional kinks like squashing and gut
flopping into play.
Woman gaining weight through feederism.
Stuff your face in the name of kink.
17. Fire Play
Temperature play with the excitement, and danger, of flames. Fire play requires a
lot of safety precautions and education, as it generally consists of applying fire
near or close to the skin.

The form it takes can include a flaming whip or flogger, fire cupping, brief
lighting of a flammable fluid on the skin, candle flames, or tapping the skin with
a lit torch.

Fire Fetish: 4 Ways to Play with Fire offers a good introduction.

18. Fisting
While fisting isn�t strictly a BDSM practice, it can often be incorporated into a
scene due to the pain/pleasure element.

Fisting can be done on either sex, as vaginal fisting or anal fisting. Guys, here
are our tips for getting fisted by a woman.

If you are new to fisting and would like to try it, read our introductory article,
Fisting: What You Need to Know.

Woman Holding BDSM Flogger in Her Teeth

Do you enjoy a good flogging?
19. Flogging
Flogging, or flagellation, for sexual gratification, is a very old kink. While
flogging has been a form of punishment throughout the ages and the world, there is
evidence of erotic flogging from as far back as the 1590s.

The sensations vary from mild to intense, depending on the force and implement
used.

For more on floggers and how to get started, see Flogging for Beginners.

20. Foot Worship

Foot worship doesn�t refer strictly to a fetish for feet, but the worship of feet
in a submissive manner.

This kink involves an element of humiliation, with the sub being �only good enough�
to worship and serve at their Dom/me�s feet. The BDSM foot worshiper submits to the
power and beauty of their Master or Mistresses� toes, soles, and arches.

Want to show your woman how much you love and worship her feet? Start with some
tame suggestions for worshipping her tender tootsies: 8 Types of Foot Worship & How
to Worship Feet.

21. Genitorture
In the context of BDSM, genitorture is the infliction of pain to the genitals for
sexual enhancement. Genitorture includes cock and ball torture, listed above.

Female genitorture, or pussy torture, is another variant. As with CBT, there�s a

whole range of possible sensations and ways to play. Wax play, electro-stimulation,
caning, clamps, and clothespins are just a few.

Read: Pussy Torture: 14 BDSM Pussy Play Ideas

Woman Having Orgasm

Sometimes pain IS pleasure.
22. Gun Play
BDSM play that involves a gun usually falls into extreme edge play.

An unloaded gun can be used penetratively in the vagina or mouth, or as a prop for
fear and danger play.

The use of a gun during sex is not without controversy, and some suggest it never
be used. If you can�t resist, do consider using a replica gun or toy gun that
cannot be loaded and has no moving parts.

23. Hair Pulling

Hair pulling is an excellent way for those new to BDSM to experiment with light
dominance and pain.

Sensations can range from a light grasp at the back of the neck, to harder pulling
and use during positions like doggy style.

For more beginner BDSM ideas, see Kink Lite for BDSM Beginners and Domination Lite
for BDSM Newbies.

24. Humiliation Play

Humiliation and degradation play can be a big part of kinky fantasies and BDSM
games. One scenario where erotic humiliation is usually key is cuckolding, but many
a slave desires to be humiliated by their Master or Mistress. They desire
humiliation for pleasure, and to display an ultimate willingness to please in the
context of service and submission.

Methods include verbal humiliation, use in role-play, and public or private

belittlement. The psychology of erotic humiliation is complex � this wiki page is a
good start for learning more.

Read: Facts about Small Penis Humiliation (SPH)

BDSM Play with ice

Revel in the cold side of BDSM temperature play.
25. Ice Play
While ice play has its dangers, it�s safer than fire play for those who want to get
started with BDSM temperature play. Think cold water, ice cubes, popsicles, and
frozen fruit.

Those are a few examples from our article, Cold Temperature Play for a Hot Summer.
For tips and advice on playing with ice in particular, see Ice Play: 4 Ways to Use
Ice Cubes for BDSM.

26. Impact Play

Impact play involves striking a person for the pleasure of one or both parties.

Typical impact play includes popular BDSM activities such as caning, spanking,
slapping, whipping, and flogging. Punching, kicking, and face slapping can also be
part of consensual impact play.

A great range of sensations is possible depending on the implement used and the
level of force.

Sexy Blonde with Whip

Care to feel the sting of impact play?
27. Knife Play
Knife play and cutting as part of BDSM is another kink that is considered risky,
but between consenting partners who have done their homework, it can be highly
erotic.

Considered a form of edge play or �fear play,� playing with knives can be highly
stimulating psychologically and physically.

Tools might involve knives, swords, or daggers and could involve drawing blood
which adds to the risk.

Knife Play
Ride the edge with knife play.
28. Mummification
Being restricted and unable to move is the ultimate submission and turn-on for
some.

Mummification is a form of bondage performed with various wrappings, including

medical tapes, plastic wrap, or even using a body bag. Being wrapped up like a
mummy falls within sensory deprivation, particularly if the mummified person cannot
see.

Curious to learn more about this bondage game? Read Mummification Bondage
Techniques and Safety.

29. Needle Play

Needle play is basically sticking a needle through the skin of someone else.

Medical needles are the only kind that should be used as they are sterile and
sharp. Piercing play is a popular variant of medical needle play.

Fear, pain, dominance, submission, and S&M, are all at play here.

Fetish nurse with medical needle.

Needle play and medical fetish go hand in hand.
30. Nose Torture
Nose torture, or nose bondage, can be employed during BDSM play and punishment as a
form of humiliation and pain.

In traditional Japanese nose torture, a nose hook pulls the submissive�s nose open
and upward, either lightly or more forcefully.

Other ways to torture the nose include wax play, clothespins or clamps, nose
caning, or simply pulling and twisting.

31. Orgasm Denial

Orgasm denial can be a fun BDSM game, especially for those who like to see their
submissive squirm! Frequently, this type of play involves continual arousal, either
physical or mental, without being able to experience release. An orgasm may be put
off until its denial is no longer bearable, or denied entirely as with the kink for
ruined orgasms.

A form of power play, orgasm denial can also be used to prolong a scene or
encounter and may involve bondage or not.

There are many ways to play with teasing kinks and orgasm denial, including the
outer limit of chastity play.

Read: Orgasm Denial: 8 Games and Ways to Play

Man giving woman an orgasm.

Bring her to the brink with orgasm control and denial.
32. Orgasm Torture
Orgasm denial is one end of a spectrum. At the other end is orgasm torture or
forced orgasms.

When you�ve had your orgasm, and you�re simply too sensitive to bear any more
stimulation? One form of orgasm torture is when a Dom forces their sub to cum again
and again. Often refusing to let the submissive touch themselves, the Dom is in
complete control of the orgasms and when, and if, a climax occurs.

Jamie put together some tips here: Orgasm Torture Tips for BDSM Couples.

33. Pegging
Pegging is a great way for a Domme to turn the tables on a male sub, bending him
over and entering him anally from behind.

When part of BDSM play, pegging play can be a very effective form of submission
and/or humiliation and gets even more interesting when combined with bondage and
anal training.

Strap-on sex and the strapon fantasy have become so popular that there are even
pegging dating sites now.

Here are 5 Strap-On Sex Tips for Beginners.

Sexy Legs in Black Stockings

What�s under there? Prepare for a pegging!
34. Pet Play
Here kitty kitty! Owner and pet play, animal role-play, and human pets refer to
BDSM play in which a submissive plays the part of an animal for their Dom.

The fun of pet play is that it brings many opportunities to explore BDSM. Bondage
and confinement through leashes and caging, kneeling and crawling before your
Master, treats and punishments, plus training.

Learn more with Pet Play: All About Animal Roleplay.

35. Piss Play

Piss play is one of those kinks that fits in nicely with BDSM play, as domination
and submission are clearly in effect when someone pisses on their partner�s body or
mouth.

An interest in �golden showers� is very common, and with some safety precautions,
can easily be incorporated into a BDSM scene.

Discover some tips for adding this fetish to your bag of tricks: Piss Play Ideas
for Kinky Lovers.

36. Pony Play

Pony play could be considered part of pet play, but as it can get quite elaborate
and has its own set of sub-niches, pony play is regarded as a BDSM play type in its
own right.

We�ve written about pony play in Confessions of a Kinky Pony Play Girl, but I also
found an excellent resource in cPony.com. It�s a site that hasn�t been updated
recently, but there is a lot to explore, including differences between cart ponies,
show ponies, riding ponies, veterinarian play, and the various pony tack and gear
used.
Pony Play Anal Plug
An anal plug fit for a unicorn.
37. Pussy Worship
Pussy worship is precisely what it sounds like; getting down on your knees to
worship at the pussy of your beloved Domme. How you worship is up to your Mistress,
but this type of subservience can be incorporated into all levels of kinky
relationships.

From light massage and oral � to face-sitting while in bondage, vagina worship is
wide-ranging.

Read Pussy Worship: How to Serve a Woman�s Vagina.

38. Rape Fantasy

Common among both women and men, the fantasy of being forced to have sex or engage
in sexual acts is called rape play or forced sex role-play.

In attempts to understand the rape fantasy, many have ascribed reasoning such as
guilt or repression to why someone would enjoy this kink. But simply, consensual
rape play is yet another game of dominance and submission, involving force and
role-play, and sometimes bondage. In a kink context, it is ALWAYS consensual.

Should You Indulge Your Kinky Date�s Rape Fantasy?

39. Roleplay
Here at Kink Lovers, we love roleplay and coming up with new ideas for BDSM games
and scenes. Roleplaying involves acting out a role or imagining your BDSM play
happening within a particular �scene.�

Classic examples include doctor and patient, officer and criminal, teacher and
student, or even animal and owner as with pet play. You can see that these role-
play ideas all consist of an authoritative Dom role and a submissive role � ripe
for further BDSM games. Role-play is a great way to let your imagination run wild!

Read: BDSM Roleplay Ideas and Scenarios

Couple Role Playing sex at the office.

Role-play can get the creative juices flowing.
40. Scat Play
Those into scat play are excited about incorporating feces into their sexual
experiences.

As a fetish, scat play is technically known as coprophilia, and coprophagia refers

to the practice of eating your own or a partner�s excrement.

Scat play is risky because feces often contain bacteria and possibly parasites, but
there are �toilet slaves� out there who are very eager to please a dominant in this
way.

41. Sado-Masochism
S&M is a broad category of play. It encompasses any kind of play that involves
sadism and masochism.

Sadism is the sexual enjoyment of inflicting pain, humiliation, or suffering upon

another. Masochism is the other side of the coin, in which a person derives sexual
pleasure from their own pain. As you can see, these two serve as the motivation for
many a BDSM encounter.

42. Sensation Play

Sensation play is any form of kinky play that incorporates the deliberate use of
sensation. Examples of sensation play include tickling, spanking, temperature play,
biting, scratching, and sounding.

Whether light or intense, sensation play is a way to explore the enhancement of the
senses, erotic anticipation, and a whole gamut of physical experiences.

Holly provides our readers with some Sensation Play Ideas for Beginners.

Couple with Man Blindfolded

Up your sensation play with a sensory depriving blindfold.
43. Sensory Deprivation
Sensory deprivation play is the act of �removing� one or more of a person�s senses
so that the remaining senses are heightened.

Typically this can be done using a blindfold or earplugs. While blindfolded, a

person may have an enhanced experience of touch, smell, and hearing, so this type
of play pairs well with sensation play.

It also creates anticipation and excitement when a sub can�t see or hear what their
Master will do next! Explore Sensory Deprivation Play for Couples.

44. Self BDSM

Most forms of play on our BDSM list revolve around what one partner can do to
another or sexual games that can be played together. But not every kinky person has
a playmate at their disposal, and some would prefer to play alone anyways.

Solo BDSM and self-bondage encompass ways that someone could safely experiment and
enjoy BDSM play on their own.

One of our most popular articles for BDSM ideas here at Kink Lovers is Solo BDSM: 5
Ways to Play Alone.

Woman practicing solo BDSM.

Getting it on with your kinky self.
45. Sounding
Sounding involves putting a thin metal rod, called a sound, into the urethra.
Urethral sounding isn�t as painful as it sounds, and can be quite pleasurable as
there are many nerve endings within the urethra. The sound can even touch the
prostate, which can be orgasmic.

Here are some beginner sounding tips.

46. Spanking
We all know what spanking is and probably learned about them from a young age.
However, erotic spanking goes well beyond punishment and is where pleasure and pain
meet.

There is so much within this type of impact play: paddles, crops, open-hand, over-
the-knee (OTK spanking), light, or extreme.

Spanking is so popular, and we have written so many spanking articles that a

spanking hub of all Kink Lovers spanking posts is forthcoming.

Interested in meeting others who share your spanking kink? Check out Spanking
Dating Sites that Work.

Woman Being Spanked

Spanking is one of the most popular forms of BDSM play.
47. Suspension Bondage
Suspension bondage is advanced BDSM. A submissive can be put in bondage and
suspended fully or partially, and in this way are put into a very helpless state.

Practitioners of BDSM suspension must know what they are doing, as it can be very
intense and comes with risks. A couple of good resources online for those who�d
like to learn about suspension and bondage in general are the Duchy and Rope
Connections.

48. Tickle Torture

Getting tickled when you are tied up and unable to squirm away can be delightful or
absolute torture depending on the circumstances. In fact, tickling was used as an
actual form of torture in ancient China, particularly on nobles because it leaves
no marks.

Want to incorporate some forced ha-has into your BDSM and bondage play? Try these 4
Tickle Torture Tips for Kinky Couples.

49. Wax Play

Wax play combines fire, heat, pain, suspense, and anticipation. What�s not to love?

This kink involves dripping wax from a candle onto a submissive�s skin. Depending
on the candle, this type of temperature play can range from a warming sensation to
extremely hot. Burns can result, so education and precaution are essential, as
always.

Here are our Wax Play Tips for Beginners.

Dominatrix in with riding crop

A riding crop is a good first whip for beginners.
50. Whipping Play
Last but not least on our BDSM list is whipping. Whipping can be an incredibly
intense form of impact play. Great care, through education and practice, must be
taken before incorporating whips into your play, as they can leave welts or even
cut the skin.

But once you know what you are doing? Your sub can be standing with their hands
bound above as your bullwhip strikes and slithers around their body, or you apply a
quick snap of a flicker whip across their bottom.

Read: BDSM Whipping: 9 Types of Whips

What are your favorite BDSM kinks?

If there�s something you think we should add to our list of BDSM ideas and
activities, please use the comments to let us know. Or just share a few details
about your favorite type of play or BDSM fantasy.

The BDSM list above pertains to play and kinks under the BDSM umbrella. You may
also want to check out our complete list of fetishes.

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