URBAN TANTRA

SACRED SEX FOR THE TWENTY-FIRST CENTURY

SECOND EDITION

BY BARBARA CARRELLAS
 Contents

The First Chakra 4

The Second Chakra 4
The Third Chakra 4
The Fourth Chakra 4
The Fifth Chakra 5
The Sixth Chakra 5
The Seventh Chakra 5
The Kundalini, Microcosmic Orbit, and Inner Flute 6
The G-Spot 7
The Breath Energygasm 8
First Chakra to Second Chakra 8
Second Chakra to Third Chakra 8
Third Chakra to Fourth Chakra 8
Fourth Chakra to Fifth Chakra 9
Fifth Chakra to Sixth Chakra 9
Sixth Chakra to Seventh Chakra 9
Props: Mild to Wild 10
The Pose of Recognition with Hand Balancing 11
The Pose of Giving and Receiving 12
The Heart Connection: Hands to Hearts 13
The Heart Connection: Rocking Back and Forth 14
Yab Yum 15
Toes to Third Eye 16
Heart-Foot-Hand 17
The Vulva 18
The Mushy Puss 19
Twist and Shout 20
Filled with Love 21
The Penis 22
Pulling Back the Skin 23
Juicer 24
Heeling 25
Rainbow Rub 26
How Genitals Develop 27
Same Jell-O, Different Molds #1 28
Same Jell-O, Different Molds #2 29
The Heart Connection: Hands to Hearts 30
The Heart Connection: Rocking Back and Forth 31
The Erotic Playsheet 32
Carol’s Erotic Playsheet 33
Tiffany’s Erotic Playsheet 34
Grant’s Erotic Playsheet 35
Simon’s Erotic Playsheet 36
Tony’s Erotic Playsheet 37
 THE FIRST CHAKRA

THE SECOND CHAKRA

THE THIRD CHAKRA

THE FOURTH CHAKRA

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 THE FIFTH CHAKRA

THE SIXTH CHAKRA

THE SEVENTH CHAKRA

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Kundalini Microcosmic Orbit Inner Flute

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The G-Spot

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THE BREATH ENERGYGASM

First chakra to second chakra

Second chakra to third chakra

Third chakra to fourth chakra

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 Fourth chakra to fifth chakra

Fifth chakra to sixth chakra

Sixth chakra to seventh chakra

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 Props: Mild to Wild
MILD    WILD

SOFT Feathers Fur Whipped Jell-O Mud

cream
COOL Breath Fruit juice Ice cream Tile floor Ice
HOT Breath Hot tub Heat rub Candle wax Branding iron

Quills Needles
SHARP Long (sharp end of Talons1 (for play piercings,
Scalpels
fingernails a feather)
permanent pierc-
ings, or tattooing)

PINCHY Fingers Pickle tongs Ice tongs Nipple clamps Clothespins2

THUDDY Pillows Ball massagers3 Boxing gloves Socks filled Floggers4

with rice

TINGLY The Tingler5 Motel bed with Vibrators Violet wands6 TENS units7
“Magic Fingers”

STINGING Slapping with Snapping Wooden Paddles Single-tail

palm of hand rubber bands spoons whips
DARK OR
Blindfolds Earplugs Masks Gags Hoods
SILENT

TIGHT Duct tape

(aka restraint or Licorice Velcro wrist Police Corseting over plastic
light bondage)
whips8 cuffs handcuffs wrap over
petroleum jelly

Massage with Massage Full-body Wrestling in

SLIPPERY Satin massage with
cornstarch with oil tongue salad oil

1. Talons are sharp, pointed metal claws that fit over the tips of your fingers. They can be used for a wide
range of sensations, from tickling and stroking to deep scratching and clawing.
2. Clothespins aren’t as innocent as they look. The longer you leave them on the skin, the more they hurt
when they come off.
3. A ball massager is a rubber ball mounted on a flexible metal or plastic handle.
4. A flogger is a whip with multiple wide, flat tails.
5. The Tingler is a copper-fingered head massager designed to stimulate the nerves and acupressure points
of the scalp.
6. A violet wand is an electrical unit that produces an arc of static electricity. It produces a purely surface
sensation.
7. A TENS (transcutaneous electrical nerve stimulator) unit is a device that sends an actual surge of
electricity deeper into the muscles.
8. Licorice whips are two- to three-foot-long strings of candy that make edible bondage ropes.

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The Pose of Recognition with Hand Balancing

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The Pose of Giving and Receiving

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The Heart Connection: Hands to Hearts

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The Heart Connection: Rocking Back and Forth

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Yab Yum

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Toes to Third Eye

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Heart-Foot-Hand

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The Vulva

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The Mushy Puss

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Twist and Shout

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Filled with Love

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The Penis

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Pulling Back the Skin

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Juicer

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Heeling

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Rainbow Rub

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 In utero we all
start off the same!
As genital tissue
develops, it may become
a penis, a vulva, or
genitals resembling both
or neither of those.

How Genitals Develop

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 raphe/inner labia
glans
shaft
scrotum/outer labia

urethral opening

frenulum

Same Jell-O, Different Molds #1

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 glans

shaft

legs
bulbs

Same Jell-O, Different Molds #2

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The Heart Connection: Hands to Hearts

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The Heart Connection: Rocking Back and Forth

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 The Erotic Playsheet

Describe your feelings and desires at this moment.

I am feeling:
The chakras I am most aware of are:
The feelings in those chakras are:
I definitely want:
I definitely don’t want:
By the end of this ritual, I would like to feel:
My intention is:

Right now, I want to use the following techniques and props:

Breath:
Breath orgasm technique:
Erotic activity:
Body massage strokes:
Position to fuck in:
Genital massage strokes:
Ritual attire:
Ritual style:
Sensation-­producing devices:
Sex toys:
Sounds:
I’ll imagine:
Sensations I’d like to feel:

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 Carol’s Erotic Playsheet

Describe your feelings and desires at this moment.

I am feeling: Exhausted, drained, angry.

The chakras I am most aware of are: Solar plexus.
The feelings in those chakras are: Caved in, hollow, empty.
I definitely want: A clitoral orgasm with goddess-­spot stimulation.
I definitely don’t want: Anyone else around.
By the end of this ritual, I would like to feel: Centered, powerful, at peace.
My intention is: To take back my power.

Right now, I want to use the following techniques and props:

Breath: Circular Breath.

Breath orgasm technique: Breath Energygasm.
Erotic activity: Selfloving.
Body massage strokes: None.
Position to fuck in: Lying on my back. Maybe doggie-­style if I feel up to it.
Genital massage strokes: None.
Ritual attire: Nothing.
Ritual style: Simple, short, and solo.
Sensation-­producing devices: Electric vibrator.
Sex toys: Large dildo.
Sounds: I want to listen to Janis Joplin’s Pearl as loudly as I can get
away with.
I’ll imagine: Janis Joplin’s freedom, power, and resilience entering my
solar plexus.
Sensations I’d like to feel: Intensity.

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 Tiffany’s Erotic Playsheet

Describe your feelings and desires at this moment.

I am feeling: Excited, scared.

The chakras I am most aware of are: Root and sex chakras.
The feelings in those chakras are: Horny, urgent.
I definitely want: To fuck.
I definitely don’t want: Any BDSM.
By the end of this ritual, I would like to feel: Softer, gentler, more open.
My intention is: To bring my sexual energy up into my heart and my third
eye. To open up and activate my heart and my intuition.
Right now, I want to use the following techniques and props:

Breath: Heart Breath and Breath of Fire.

Breath orgasm technique: None.
Erotic activity: Partner sex.
Body massage strokes: Slow, deep glides and circles.
Position to fuck in: Any.
Genital massage strokes: Goddess spot strokes, rock around the clit clock,
divine drumming.
Ritual attire: Silk sarong, but not for long!
Ritual style: Soft, intimate.
Sensation-­producing devices: Fingers and cock.
Sex toys: None.
Sounds: Music that’s big and dramatic and a bit otherworldly.
I’ll imagine: Hot fire moving into my heart and upper chakras and cool
water flowing down into my lower chakras.
Sensations I’d like to feel: Stroking, sensual.

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 Grant’s Erotic Playsheet

Describe your feelings and desires at this moment.

I am feeling: Confused, frightened.

The chakras I am most aware of are: Throat and third eye.
The feelings in those chakras are: My throat feels tight and I have a headache.
I definitely want: To be blindfolded and restrained.
I definitely don’t want: Any pain.
By the end of this ritual, I would like to feel: Stronger, grounded, more in
my body.
My intention is: To feel my entire body.

Right now, I want to use the following techniques and props:

Breath: Bottom Breath and Heart Breath.

Breath orgasm technique: Clench and Hold.
Erotic activity: Partner sex.
Body massage strokes: Not sure.
Position to fuck in: Tiffany on top.
Genital massage strokes: Fire, rainbow rub, twist and shout, rock around
the cock clock.
Ritual attire: My leather shorts.
Ritual style: Don’t know.
Sensation-­producing devices: Mouth, hands, pussy.
Sex toys: None.
Sounds: Jazz or instrumental.
I’ll imagine: My sexual energy is coming into my cock from a root that
extends into the hot molten center of the earth.
Sensations I’d like to feel: Tiffany’s mouth on my cock.

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 Simon’s Erotic Playsheet

Describe your feelings and desires at this moment.

I am feeling: Distraught, helpless, lost, hypersensitive. It feels like every

nerve in my body is numb and raw.
The chakras I am most aware of are: Heart, chest.
The feelings in those chakras are: Heavy, congested.
I definitely want: To stop hurting.
I definitely don’t want: More pain.
By the end of this ritual, I would like to feel: Peaceful.
My intention is: To accept Tony’s love and support.

Right now, I want to use the following techniques and props:

Breath: Bottom Breath and Circular Breath.

Breath orgasm technique: Clench and Hold.
Erotic activity: Not sure, maybe erotic massage.
Body massage strokes: Not sure.
Position to fuck in: Not sure if I want to fuck.
Genital massage strokes: Any or all are good.
Ritual attire: Something to keep warm; I’m having chills.
Ritual style: Dark, quiet, wordless.
Sensation-­producing devices: Whatever works.
Sex toys: None.
Sounds: Drums.
I’ll imagine: A strong, eternal connection with my mother’s and my
brother’s spirits.
Sensations I’d like to feel: Strong, intense.

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 Tony’s Erotic Playsheet

Describe your feelings and desires at this moment.

I am feeling: Helpless with regard to Simon’s pain. Anxious.

The chakras I am most aware of are: Heart.
The feelings in those chakras are: Love, compassion, sadness.
I definitely want: To help Simon feel lighter.
I definitely don’t want: To make things any worse.
By the end of this ritual, I would like to feel: Happy, helpful.
My intention is: To give comfort and support to Simon.

Right now, I want to use the following techniques and props:

Breath: I want to do the Circular Breath and the Bottom Breath.

Breath orgasm technique: N/A.
Erotic activity: I’d like to give an erotic massage to Simon.
Body massage strokes: I’ll give any/all that Simon would like.
Position to fuck in: N/A.
Genital massage strokes: I’ll give any/all that Simon would like.
Ritual attire: Nothing.
Ritual style: Dark, intense.
Sensation-­producing devices: Whatever Simon wants. I might try
a thudder and a flogger.
Sex toys: Whatever Simon wants.
Sounds: New Age, ethereal.
I’ll imagine: My love and support for Simon flowing from my cock,
through my heart, and into my hands as I touch him.
Sensations I’d like to feel: Open and present in my giving.

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