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Foundation of Marriage

This document provides an overview of various theories related to how people select marriage partners. It discusses proximity theory, which suggests people marry those they interact with regularly. Exchange theory views marriage as an exchange of desirable traits. Complimentary needs theory proposes finding a partner who fulfills complementary needs. Time and place theory emphasizes marrying when the timing and location are right. Filter theory outlines biological, social, and psychological filters people use in selecting partners. The document aims to educate students about factors influencing mate selection.

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Foundation of Marriage

This document provides an overview of various theories related to how people select marriage partners. It discusses proximity theory, which suggests people marry those they interact with regularly. Exchange theory views marriage as an exchange of desirable traits. Complimentary needs theory proposes finding a partner who fulfills complementary needs. Time and place theory emphasizes marrying when the timing and location are right. Filter theory outlines biological, social, and psychological filters people use in selecting partners. The document aims to educate students about factors influencing mate selection.

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Marriage Preparation the

Foundation of Marriage!

You may have to kiss (date)


a lot of Toads
before you find your
handsome prince or princess.

Objectives / Standards:
The student will be able to:

Compose own personal list of


characteristics, qualities, and values
desired in a marriage partner.

Identify and explain the Mate Selection


Theorys.

Student will share their Personal Ads.

Watch or Read Fannies Dream (Video was


produced with permission by BYU students.

Discuss Fannies Dream


What was she looking for
What was she like
Discuss that she got what she was.

Seven Brides for Seven Brothers

Activity Uniquely Me,

Choosing a mate by making a List

Put a + by all the items you feel that you


personally would rate positively on and
by all the things on which you would rate
poorly or need to work on.
While having more pluses increase your
chances for a successful marriage, having a
lot of minuses does not mean that you have
no hope of ever having a happy, successful
marriage.

Discuss the following topics that are


important to a marriage:
A happy childhood.
Attendance at weekly church service
Family Placement
Having a good relationship with parents
(healthy attachment to, relatively little
conflict).
Parents having a happy marriage.

Assignment:
Student look through a few of the reference
websites on the my website and see what the
experts have to say on the subject of marriage
preparation.
Then respond to the question on the discussion
board.

COUNT THE Fs
FEATURE FILMS ARE THE
RESULT OF YEARS OF
SCIENTIFIC STUDY
COMBINED WITH THE
EXPERIENCE OF YEARS.
Now we know what we are looking for.
Where do we find a potential mate?

Mate Selection Theories:


For each theory think of a segment of a video
that would deplete each theory.

Theory of Propinquity:
Simply stated, this theory says we marry
people we know. If you know only people
from your high school, thats who you will
marry. If you know only people where you
work, your church, your college, etc., that is
who you will marry.

Exchange Theory
Everyone evaluates his/her own worth and then goes to
barter and see what he/she can find. The person
thinks, I am this good looking, this smart, and have
this type of job. You are not as good; or better; or
about the same, it is a fair trade.
Many exchanges are trades. For example, looks for
looks, money for money, etc. It is not uncommon to
see pictures of people getting married that look like
they could be brother and sister.
Some exchanges may be for different qualities. A guy
with lots of money but who is not very handsome may
be able to exchange that money for a beautiful girl.

Complimentary Needs Theory


This theory says that you find someone who
compliments your needs. A dominate person may find
a submissive person. A quite person would select an
outgoing person, a nurturing person may find someone
who likes to be mothered, etc.
The message should be emphasized that couples really
should not be opposites, but rather complimentary to
each other. For example, if he is life of the party, she
should enjoy being part of a group, not be the center of
attention. A good approach is for each spouse to learn
to participate in and enjoy the likes of the other
spouse.

TIME AND PLACE THEORY


This theory says that as we travel through life, we will
meet many people; but we will marry the person we
are going with when the time is right. A person may
have dated and broken up with several people that they
might have married if the time have been right.
Society tries to convince us that it is time to marry when:
We finish college, a career is established, finishing
high school (there is nothing else to do), or when
returning from military or other service. (People
generally marry about four years after they begin to
date on a regular basis.) Some average ages are
United States 24.5 for males, 22.5 for females Utah ~
22 for males, 20 for females

Place
The "place" half of this theory relates to who is available in
the area where you are at the time (goes to the same
school, clubs, etc.). This theory says you will marry
someone who lives in the same geographical area where
you live. An example: There are limits on the amount of
time and money a person will spend when commuting to
work if there is work closer to home. Hence, there are
limits on how much time and money a person will
invest in commuting to date someone when there are
available people living nearby. It has been estimated
that 75% of the men and women who marry will live
within five miles of each other. A person may have
better than a 50 -50 chance that their marriage partner
lives within walking distance. An indicator of someone's
real feelings or intentions is shown by willing to give up
money and time for the other person..

FILTER THEORY
Biological Factors:
This theory says that we put on a pair of glasses with a
special filter that says: anyone I date must be at least
this tall, of this religion, have a particular type of
family, be a college graduate, be good looking, etc.
People continue to put on filters until they look
around and see very few people. Then they come up
with the famous line, "There's NOBODY decent
around here." There are three main categories of filters
we use: biological, social, psychological:
Biological Filters:
-Sex -Age -Family Lines -Height
(first / second cousins)
(Males same height or
shorter, Female same height or taller)
-Physical disabilities -Physical Attractiveness / Status

Social Filters:
SOCIAL CLASS is major determinant in mate selection. Most people
marry within their own class or income level. When lines are crossed, it
is usually the male who has married down. There is an increased chance
of marriage success when you marry within your own social class:
-What did Cinderella have in common with the prince?
-How well would a doctor and a waitress relate to each other?
RACE is the least likely line to be crossed in mate selection. 99% of us
marry within our own race. However, a mixed-race marriage has a
much higher chance of success if they live in a community that is
accepting of the marriage.
RELIGION is another important item to consider in mate selection. Most
people marry within their own religion. There are two very good
reasons for this: First, it reduces the amount of marital conflict and
second, it lessens the complications of child-bearing. Another point to
consider is the degree of religiosity of each partner.
EDUCATION AND INTELLIGENCE are also important. Most men are
more intelligent then their wives. Most men marry down or at least to
an equal level of intelligence and education. The more education the
couple has, the better the chances of a successful marriage.

Psychological filters:
This are deals with the compatibility of the conscious and
unconscious needs of the couple. These needs are usually
based on childhood experiences. People often marry a
person similar to the opposite sex parent. However, they
may marry someone opposite of the parent because of their
negative reaction to the parent. This is their chance to break
the abuse cycle.
Personalities go well together? Some considerations: amount
of personal space each needs archetype of love language
* seriousness or lightness of personality
*role compatibility
* interests and hobbies (be sure it is the person you are in love
with, not just the activity.
* achievement orientation
*picky, meticulous, detailed, personality type

Give yourself this test:


1. Does this person make you a better person?
2. Would you rather be with this person than
with anyone else in the world?
3. Could you spend the rest of your life with
him/her?

Add stories for Chicken Soup books

Assignment:
Respond to the question place on
the discussion board!!!

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