CHAPTER TEN

MY INNER CIRCLE – NURTURING

FAMILY TIES
HOW CAN YOU NURTURE
FAMILY RELATIONSHIP?
• The journey to personal development does • The family is the foremost unit that gave you
not only take into account the self as a the first experience of the world. You were
growing individual and charting a career to born dependent on the love and care of the
establish full independence and success in people around you. Your socialization
life. Your growth and personal effectiveness experience begins at home.
have to manifest in your relationships.
 THE FAMILY : IN PERSPECTIVES

• The family is the basic unit of the society. Each family is unique as a result of the blending of
factors that influence the dynamics of behaviors and interaction among family members in and
outside of their home. These factors include family values , traditions , beliefs , socio-economic
status , and religion.
• But no matter how families grow , they adhere to serving some general functions and structures.
 FUNCTIONS

PROCREATION
• The family serves important functions that • The family is an institution recognized to
are integral to the development of a person. perform the duty to procreate , ex.( to have a
Significantly , the family shapes a child’s child).Along with it is the duty of the parents
behavior through experiences gained through to provide other life-giving and loving ways
the years. of raising them.
 ECONOMIC PROVISION LOVE
• Caring for the children includes taking care • There is a quote that says, “ Family is where
of their needs over and above the basics : life begins and where love never ends.”
food , shelter , and clothing. It may sound Material provision , while it matters a lot ,
like an old cliché , but education remains one does not solely answer an individual’s needs.
of the perfect legacies of parents to their Love holds the greatest importance in the
children. family. It is what is most needed. It is the best
gift that can be give.
 SOCIALIZATION SENSE OF SECURITY
• The family provides immediate opportunities • Family offers a stable companionship – a feeling that
you are not alone in this world. While adolescents like
for the children to grow through the
you are kept busy discovering the self, growing , being
interactions an individual experiences with independent , and expanding your own world, you will
the members of the family , with other people still need a “secure base ,” a safe place where you can
that the family associates with, and through draw support , comfort , and reassurance especially
engagement with various activities. when life becomes challenging. A family is expected to
be able to provide that kind of emotional environment.
 DIFFERENT FAMILY STRUCTURES

NUCLEAR FAMILY EXTENDED FAMILY

• Traditional type of family. Two parents and • Aside from the two parents and their
their children are living together as one children, the family is joined in by relatives
family is an example. who live with them like grandparents ,
cousins or aunties/uncles.
 FAMILY WITH WORKING
PARENTS SINGLE –PARENT FAMILY
• From what used to be only the father working • Refers to the setup in which either the
for the family , and mother tending the home mother or father alone takes the responsibility
and children , both parents now work to of caring for the child or children.
support the family. The high cost of living
and of other expenses compel both parents to
work financial security and to assure the
future of the children.
 BLENDED FAMILY
• This setup consists of a couple wherein one • The couple remarrying may have children
or both of them have children from a from their previous relationships.
previous marriage or relationship. In many
instances , it happens when separation ,
annulment/divorce , or death of spouse
eventually leads to remarriage.
 CHILDLESS FAMILY OTHER FAMILY SETUPS/FRAMEWORKS
• There are family situations when couples do • There are couples who live together as common
not have children either by choice or due to –law or domestic partners. These couples who
certain circumstances ( health ). are not legally married but are living together
and sharing household responsibilities.
• They can choose to adopt , or take care of a child
from a previous relationships ( if there is).
 FAMILY EXPERIENCES

• CHILD –REARING PRACTICES AND FAMILY

CARE
Child-rearing reflects the kind of parenting style exercised by parents. These are patterns
or ways with which parents raise their children .
DR. DIANA BAUMRIND- a psychologists who studied parenting styles , identified three broad
patterns as authoritarian , permissive , and authoritative.
ELEONOR MACCOBY and JOHN MARTIN- suggested another parenting style – neglectful.
 PARENTING STYLES

AUTHORITARIAN PERMISSIVE
• This is characterized by rigid and /or • Opposite of authoritarian is a permissive kind of parenting.

demanding parenting style. • Parents of this nature are very giving to the point of
spoiling their children.
• Parents are very strict. They expect their
• They tend to be warm and loving.
children to follow them with out question.
• They have few expectations and minimal limitations.
• They do not tolerate misbehavior and do not
• They allow their children to be part in making decisions in
hesitate to apply punishment to control behavior. the family.
 AUTHORITATIVE NEGLECTFUL
• This kind of parenting is considered balanced . • Neglectful parents are not involved in child –
Parents are authority figures who set clear rearing.
expectations from their children. They set
• They may provide for the child’s needs , but
reasonable limitations , yet they also give them
are emotionally detached , unsupportive of
room for independence , provide them
their children , inconsistent , or
emotional support , and respect their point of
unpredictable.
view.
• They likewise empower their child to exercise
decision-making.
 CHALLENGES AND TURNING POINTS
• SEPARATTON/DIVORCE
• There are certain events that create a huge • TRAUMATIC EVENTS
impact on the family. It may change the
• STRESSES
status, dynamics or finances that affect family
life. • DEATH
• VIOLENCE OR ABUSE
 LOOKING INTO YOUR FAMILY DYNAMICS

GENOGRAM
• A visual representation of a family. It is like • Monica McGoldrick and Randy Gerson in
a family tree, only it shows more details or mid-1980s (popularized and developed
gives more information regarding genogram)- used them in therapeutic work.
relationships and patterns within the family. • Genogram is widely used to source
information that aids in understanding patterns
, practices , or dynamics within the family .
STANDARD GENOGRAM SYMBOLS
CHILDREN /SIBLINGS
 NURTURING FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS

• Relationships need work . Our family , no

matter how closely knit , is no exception . • TIME
Being close and familiar is not enough to • Make time for your family .Spend quality
make each other loved. Family has to be time with them and fill it with good moments.
continuously nurtured and strengthened. Do it often.
• Time with your family also enhances
communication as it gives opportunity for
family members to talk one another.
 •LOVE •COMMITMENT
• The family should be built on love . As • As it takes effort to do all things , commit
everybody loves and needs to be loved, the yourself to doing what is good , healthy , and
family should be the first to show it. nurturing for your family.