The Lost Art of Conversation
The Lost Art of Conversation
Pay
close attention to other people. How many of them are having face-to-
face conversations? How many have their heads down using a smartphone or
tablet?
Advances in technology have changed how people communicate. We’re able to
text, email, tweet, and post videos all day long. In many ways, we’re
more connected than ever.
Have these new types of communication come at the expense of real, face-to-
face conversations? Some experts think so. They say electronic communications
aren’t as deep as in-person conversations. You can’t read body language in a text.
You also can’t see facial expressions or hear a tone of voice in an email. This
leaves much more room for misunderstanding.
Do we really spend that much time on electronic devices? A 2019 study from
Common Sense Media found the answer is yes. Most American teens spend over
seven hours per day using electronic devices for entertainment
and communication. For children between the ages of 8 and 12, the average is
nearly five hours per day. Many kids spend even more time on screens at school.
So what’s the big deal? Many people worry that too much screen time can
harm social and writing skills. It leads people to use less eye contact and be more
distracted during in-person communication. This can make it harder to have
healthy relationships at home, school, and work.
Does digital communication have any benefits? Of course! It teaches
important skills and habits. After all, many people connect through email or chat
software at work nowadays. But face-to-face conversations teach other skills that
are important for overall well being.
Real-life conversations can turn a bad day into a good day. They make people feel
more connected to others. Have you ever felt sad or lonely? If so, you know a
smile and a few kind words can turn your mood around.
How can we be sure we don’t lose the art of conversation? Experts urge people
to unplug more often. Set aside time without devices. Talk face-to-face with
friends and family. Keeping a healthy balance between on-screen and off-screen
discussions will make you a better communicator.
When was the last time you unplugged? If you’re not sure, try it right now. Put
down your electronic devices and spend time with the people around you. Take
time to go for a walk or play outside. Don’t worry, Wonderopolis—and all your
other online activities—will still be here when you get back!
Losing the Art of Conversation: Many Distractions
As a society we have been creeping away from conversations ever since television became
common, and many of us remain glued to TV even as we eat dinner instead of conversing about our
day. Now we have the Internet with its many distractions, one of which is email. We have so many
choices of ways to connect such as text messaging, and social media such as LinkedIn, Twitter,
Facebook, Instagram, SnapChat, Google+ and Pinterest . There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t
get several invitations to join various social networks or LinkedIn groups from people who have no
idea who I am. I get so much spam through LinkedIn connections who are selling me something,
asking me to endorse them or to join their LinkedIn Group. There is a lot of noise out there, and
many distractions through an increasing number of social networks. I find that it’s a real balancing
act to get my work done for all the noise.
But for now I’m having some deep conversations with family members. There is nothing like the
impending loss of a loved one to draw out emotion and connection.