Self - Dev Guide: A Compilation of A Lot of Books I Read
Self - Dev Guide: A Compilation of A Lot of Books I Read
TACTICS
THE BIG 04 What is it and how can we spot
it.
What you can do to grow and
be more productive. 03 PICTURE KNOW YOUR
WORLD
05 What to do and how to do it.
TECHNICAL SKILL
DEV
06 Develop skills in demand for
the 21st century.
01
Foundations of motivation
We are evolved to chose our purpose.
THREE COMPONENTS
AUTONOMY
Choose a discipline A healthy life.
These components will guide you to being highly
motivated.
MASTERY
A discipline you can
constantly improve
at.
Purpose
What you master
helps more people
than yourself.
AUTONOMY
You must be free to choose. Once you choose, you have
to stick with your chosen discipline, make sure it is
something you can constantly improve at.
Autonomy
Rewards and sanctions are short term performance incentives. In the long term, they destroy the inner
impetus.
Rewards and sanctions are short term performance incentives. In the long term, they destroy the inner
impetus. This is how you can grow it.
1. Pick something challenging. Pursue a goal with personal meaning. The goal should be possible but not
certain.
2. Pick something you are curious about.
3. It is something you can control. You can pursue your goal in control of yourself and environment.
4. Increases when you cooperate and compete.
5. With the social component, comes recognition. People enjoy having their deeds noticed by others.
MASTERY
Mastery is about forever improving on what you chose
with diligent focused practice.
MASTERY
1. Your goals in a new field should not be external motivators like money, achievement, affiliation or
power but to learn as much as possible.
2. You don’t need an inborn talent to become a master, just follow the steps of a master.
3. The best way to learn is to find a master and apprentice from them. Master’s are often eager to share
what they know.
4. Study the lives of past masters.
5. It is a journey, not a destination. Practice is a path.
6. Surround yourself with other masters and focus on the joy of practice.
7. Listen to your teacher, visualize with intent and confront your limits are the three pillars of mastery.
8. Move your body, set priorities and accept your limits. You need fule for the journey ahead. Take care
of your health!
9. New endeavours are shaped by ongoing learning, patient, diligent, focused practice and a rediscovery
of your own human potential
PURPOSE
What you chose to master must help other people than
yourself.
PURPOSE
To have a positive impact on those around you and those that you do not know.
1. By developing a set of moral ideas to live and work by. This should drive your choice and path of
mastery.
2. If you are driven by discovery you will take responsibility for your actions.
3. Lead by excellence and nurture the virtues that will lead you to the best job you can do.
4. Strive to create the greatest possible happiness for the largest number of people.
5. Use your vision to guide humanity into unknown territory.
6. Purpose lifts the moral of those around you and pushes humanity forward.
7. Doing good things for other people without expecting anything in return feels good.
RESOURCES
GRIT
THE MINDSET
You can learn a growth oriented mindset by confronting your own ideas, bias’ and attitudes. Your mindset
is influenced from your childhood but it is ultimately your choice.
You will always hit a rough patch when you are doing something you love. Perseverance will get you
through, and it is also a muscle that can be strengthened.
1. When you decide to do something. Commit to it through thick and thin. Do not give up.
2. Seek out challenges above your skill level to improve your grit.
3. Set yourself a task, define it’s length and deadline. Plan what you have do do to stay on track.
4. Repeat and build it into a habit as a cornerstone of your identity.
WILLPOWER
1. It has a limited reserve. Doing things you don’t like and not doing things you do like takes energy
from the same source.
2. It is a biological instinct that protects us from harm in the long run.
3. It’s a response similar to “fight or flight”. It is “pause and plan”.
WILLPOWER COMPONENTS
1. “I won’t” - Which habit is interfering with long terms goals such as health and happiness.
2. “I will” - The ability to do what you dislike in the present for long term gain.
3. “I want” - visualizing the future you want.
STRENGTHENING WILLPOWER
1. Mindful meditation increases awareness and helps avoid distractions. When you are distracted you are
more likely to fall into temptation.
2. Eat low glycemic foods, such as nuts, cereals, fruits, vegetables and grams,
3. You can keep a small temptation nearby so you can regularly refuse.it.
4. Don’t indulge in the present. Thinking that you are virtuous lowers self awareness and then we are less
likely to control ourselves.
5. Manage stress. Stress can trigger downward spirals. Feeling bad can trigger cravings and high
expectations.
6. Imagine your future self looking back on your present self.
7. Visible rewards makes us overestimate the benefits of instant gratification and underestimate the value
of exerting self-control. Distancing yourself from the temptation makes the temptation weaker.
8. Pushing aside temptations makes the craving stronger. Use the “I will” component to drown out the “I
wont”. Ex. I will eat healthy instead of “I won’t”.
9. Willpower is contagious. Practicing it socially increases the likelihood of success from 24% to 66%.
CREATIVITY
Creativity is often thought as a single attribute. It is a combination of innate and learned behaviours.
1. Your emotions are separate from your actions and your words, you can control yourself.
2. Understand you can always improve.
3. Seek to understand, then to be understood. Listening is the most valuable skill you will ever develop..
Get amazing at this. Develop your aural listening, then work on developing your empathic listening.
4. Be Proactive.
5. Establish a vision of the end goal before you begin.
6. Learn how to prioritize your tasks. We will talk more about this in tactics and strategies.
7. Think win-win. We are stronger together. Life is not a zero sum game.
8. Synergize. This is the only way to exceed a sum of total individual contributions. Teamwork!
9. Reinvest at least 10% of your time and energy into yourself.
10. Pay it forward, once you develop these skills help others to develop them.
11. Don’t be afraid to give up power.
Handy Social Skills
1. Smile.
2. Listen. This is being repeated from last slide because of how important it is. Don’t interrupt.
3. Take a genuine interest in other people’s interests and understand why they like what they do.
4. Never criticize publicly.
5. Be lavish and generous with your praise.
6. Admit your own mistakes openly. Don’t make excuses. Don’t blame. Take responsibility.
7. Call attention to other people’s mistakes indirectly.
8. Be kind, brave, honest and devoted to your beliefs.
9. Surround yourself with good people.
10. Life’s joys are in becoming a more loving, humble person, not material possessions or social status.
Don’t be an asshole
1. Asshole, is the right term for all those people who bully or put down others.
2. Assholes are bad for business, their bullshit has an area of effect. It is worse when you get an asshole
in management.
3. An asshole free environment creates a great working environment. Less assholes means more equality
for the team.
4. Multiple studies show that giving people higher social status enables asshole behaviour.
5. There is an inverse correlation between being an asshole and being a good manager.
6. To reduce asshole behaviour foster cooperation rather than competition.
7. The human moral compass is highly malleable to the moral compass of the group. Avoid assholes or
become one.
8. Build emotional distance with any asshole you encounter.
9. Assholes need to go because negative actions have 5x times the effect over positive ones.
10. Champion a no asshole policy wherever you go. We as a species have to clean up their mess.
RESOURCES
You need to understand what is happening in your brain. Watch out for these! We are slaves to our
evolutionary roots.
1. We each have our subjective realities. We need to move towards an objective one.
2. Post hoc fallacy. AKA the placebo effect. When one event follows the other, our brains can draw a
correlation between the events.
3. The halo effect is when we appraise someone’s character after learning one thing about them.
4. We crave rational explanations while unaware the reasons behind our emotions.
5. Counter arguments and negative comments cause us to entrench into our views. It is called the
backfire effect.
6. Because we form groups, we tend to believe there is a homogeneity in each others behavior. We aren’t
all the same.
7. Our outfit choice influences who we are and what we do.
8. Fundamental Attribution error is when we attribute someone’s behaviour to their character rather than
their situation.
9. Realistic conflict theory tells us that conflict can arrise between groups with limited resources and
different goals.
RESOURCES
1. https://www.16personalites.com
2. OCEAN - https://openpsychometrics.org/tests/IPIP-BFFM/
3. You Are Now Less Dumb - Mark McRaney
HABITS
Our thoughts, become words, our words become
actions, our actions become habits and our habits
become our destiny.
Habits
Habits are simple cue-routine-reward loops that are stored in the basal ganglia, specifically the stratium.
Habits are incredibly resilient and can operate even if your brain is severely damaged.
Break up your vision into different bottom up horizons. Visualize each one.
This is absolutely most important thing you do when it comes to self management.
A quick guide to sleep hygiene so you can perform at your highest capacity.
1. Sleep deprivation deprives the brain’s glucose content. Which fuels grey matter in the areas that deal
with problem solving and high level thinking.
2. Get sunlight between 6 am and 8 am. This triggers a wake up call to your brains, other organs and
glands.
3. Sleep in pitch black. Light at night suppresses melatonin by up to 50%. No screens 1 hour before bed.
4. Timing, go to bed within 30 minutes every night. This regulates our internal bio-clock. No work in the
bedroom.
5. Get up early, we are evolved to be active during the day.
6. 10pm and 2pm is when our peak production from melatonin and other hormones peak.
7. Caffeine has a half life of 8 hours. You need to flush it before you can rest.
8. Alcohol prevents entering REM, the stage responsible for memory processing.
9. Magnesium is responsible for 300 biochemical reactions for your body and calms the nervous system,
balances blood sugar levels, optimizes blood pressure and relaxes muscles. Meditate regularly.
10. Make where you sleep a sanctuary of peace. English Ivy is the best air filtering plant. “Mother in
Law’s tongue” converts Co2 to oxygen at night.
Nutrition Management
This drives sleep, energy level, immune system and longevity. This is the hardest subject to get clarity on
because of the topics saturation in the infosphere.
1. Understand your blood sugar and how the body stores fat to help make better choices. Low Glycemic
foods regulate blood sugar better.
2. Circadian rhythm primes your body to eat at certain times. We are primed to eat at certain parts of the
day and don’t really like to be stuffed before bed.
3. We become more resistant to insulin as the day goes on.
4. You don’t have to eat breakfast food for breakfast. Healthier dinner meals are just fine.
5. If you would like to make a change, start small and slowly like any other habit.
6. Replace un-healthy foods with healthy foods.
7. Soy and broccoli has genistein which is proven to boost cancer -fighting defense system which stops
blood flow to tumors.
8. Cocoa helps regenerate stem cells. Cocoa is high in flavanols.
9. Fruit, sauerkraut and cheese maintain healthy gut bacteria.
10. Mushrooms and olive oil help your immune system fight everything from colds to cancer.
11. Do your research!
Fear management
Face your fears immediately and put it in a disaster report. This is a basic risk assessment.
1. Your brain is terrible at remembering things. Short term memory holds 5-6 things.
2. Make sure you have the right tools to capture all tasks, ideas and reminders.
3. Empty your collection tools weekly and clarify.
4. Organize, everything should have its place.
5. If something takes more than one action it is a project and it goes on the project list.
6. If something can be delegated, it goes on the waiting for list.
7. Calendar is meant for time and date specific actions.
8. Next action lists are where all your todos end up. Split these lists based on contexts. These should be
as specific as possible.
Time Engagement
Greatness is defined by exceeding the S&P 500 growth by X amount over a number of years.
1. The right people in the right place is the foundation for greatness.
2. Getting the right people in to the company is as important as getting the wrong people out of it.
3. Embrace the stockdale paradox. Confront the facts while retaining the faith of success.
4. Brutal facts must be aired without hesitation.
5. A culture of rigorous self-discipline is needed to adhere to the company’s hedgehog concept.
MAINTAINING GREATNESS
Greatness is defined by exceeding the S&P 500 growth by X amount over a number of years.
1. Visionary companies are able to maintain success by staying true to their core ideologies while
relentlessly pursuing progress.
2. A company’s core ideologies must go beyond profit as a purpose. It must have other reasons for
existing.
3. Progress must be stimulated by bold goals with grassroots mechanisms to get them into place.
4. Visionary companies have a cult like atmosphere, new recruits either thrive or leave.
5. Stimulate evolutionary progress by encouraging experimentation.
6. They don’t talk, take concrete actions to achieve their goals.
ORGANIZATIONAL HEALTH
For a company to succeed it is not enough for it to have smart leaders. They must clearly communicate the
organization’s priorities
1. Leadership team meetings are where cohesion, clarity and communication of purpose happens.
2. Decisions around strategies and tactics are considered made and reviewed.
3. Leadership meetings should occur regularly and should allow time for discussing each important issue.
4. Meetings need to be focused to avoid meeting overload.
5. Daily - for team information exchange.
6. Weekly - The most valuable, these are for team tactics and help build a cohesive team and a healthy
org. Weekly’s shouldnt have an agenda.
7. Monthy - Critical issues that have a long term impact on the team. Like product deficiency or major
competitive threat.
8. Quarterly - For refreshing perspectives on the business.
RESOURCES
Natural Talent can only take you so far. Societies and how you are raised have the largest impact.
1. Compound advantages from when where and to whom you are born play the biggest factor in a
person’s success.
2. Innate abilities can only get you so far, in order to achieve world class mastery you must diligently
practice.
3. Being born in a geographic location determines what facilities you get access to like libraries,
education and markets.
4. When you are born wealthy you simply have more advantages than the poor. Such as tutors and
equipment.
5. Success is the result of a series of advantages that compound ontop of eachother. The biggest ones are
to who you are born, where you are born and when you are born.
The uneven playing field.
Compound Advantage is the culmination of skills built upon each other and learned at an early age which
leads to other skills. More advantages provide more access to opportunities.
1. To whom someone is born. Parents teach how to interpret work and social situations. This is not
innate
2. Where someone is born and raised plays a huge role. Facilities and markets are radically different
based on geography.
3. When you are born plays a huge role. Someone that comes of age during an industrial revolution as far
more opportunities of someone than who comes of age in an economic depression.
COMPOUND ADVANTAGE
EXAMPLES
These play a very large role in success and are often provided to you by your parents.
1. What income level your parents have when you are born.
2. Is success expected from you?
3. Was work ethic taught to you?
4. Did you have access to better tools and knowledge?
5. Were you taught to push past your comfort zone?
6. Were you taught healthy daily habits?
7. Were you taught financial skills?
8. Were you taught how to establish a routine?
9. Were you taught how to embrace obstacles and view them as a challenge?
10. These are some of the things that parents give their children and these things stack up on top of each
other. It is never too late to learn.
Geography
1. School district was one of the first in the country to offer 3d animation a growing field at the time.
2. Affordable post secondary education. .
3. First world country provides access to better job markets and more opportunities.
When someone was born.
Timing is key.
1. Graduating pre vs post 2008 financial crisis. I can’t stress this enough how this is such a dividing line
in prosperity.
2. Establishing a career at the beginning of a booming economy.
3. Financially established before a revolutionary technology came online.
4. Invested in said technology.
RESOURCES
DATA Revolution in
renewable energy.
Two revolutions in
data processing and
storage.
MEDICIN
LOGISTIC E
Revolution in
S genetic engineering.
Revolution in
transport and
manufactureing.
What is an industrial revolution?
Vertically integrated industrial sectors are flattening out into access networks due to the internet and
computing advances.
1. The music industry was one of the first casualties of the information revolution. What was once
controlled by Sony and Time warner, was devastated by Napster and is now controlled by Spotify and
Apple.
2. Kodak was replaced by the smartphone and Facebook.
3. Advertising is now dominated by Facebook and Google.
4. Taxis, LOL
5. Shipping and logistics will be replaced with a network of self driving vehicles.
6. This will continue into the financial and regulator sectors with Bitcoin, a revolution in data transfer
and record keeping.
7. It is underway in Germany with a distributed renewable energy grid.
8. Remote work is more prevalent with high speed Internet access spreading across the globe..
RESOURCES
1. Hackerrank.com
2. Coursera
3. Udemy
4. Udacity
5. Opencourseware
THANKS
Does anyone have any questions?
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