Healthy

Relationships
 I KNOW THE SIGNS OF A HEALTHY
RELATIONSHIP
Put a HEART before each statement that you think is a sign of a healthy relationship;
put an X on each statement that you think is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.

1. You can express your opinion without fear or dread .

 I KNOW THE SIGNS OF A HEALTHY
RELATIONSHIP
Put a HEART before each statement that you think is a sign of a healthy relationship;
put an X on each statement that you think is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.

2. You and your partner can make decisions together

and fairly.
 I KNOW THE SIGNS OF A HEALTHY
RELATIONSHIP
Put a HEART before each statement that you think is a sign of a healthy relationship;
put an X on each statement that you think is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.

3. Each person takes responsibility for their own

actions.
 I KNOW THE SIGNS OF A HEALTHY
RELATIONSHIP
Put a HEART before each statement that you think is a sign of a healthy relationship;
put an X on each statement that you think is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.

4. Your partner doesn’t support your decisions.

 I KNOW THE SIGNS OF A HEALTHY
RELATIONSHIP
Put a HEART before each statement that you think is a sign of a healthy relationship;
put an X on each statement that you think is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.

5. You are sometimes forced to do something that

you’re not comfortable with.
 I KNOW THE SIGNS OF A HEALTHY
RELATIONSHIP
Put a HEART before each statement that you think is a sign of a healthy relationship;
put an X on each statement that you think is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.

6. You respect and encourage each other.

 I KNOW THE SIGNS OF A HEALTHY
RELATIONSHIP
Put a HEART before each statement that you think is a sign of a healthy relationship;
put an X on each statement that you think is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.

7. You give each other space to study or hang out with

friends or family.
 I KNOW THE SIGNS OF A HEALTHY
RELATIONSHIP
Put a HEART before each statement that you think is a sign of a healthy relationship;
put an X on each statement that you think is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.

8. Your partner hurts you physically or emotionally .

 I KNOW THE SIGNS OF A HEALTHY
RELATIONSHIP
Put a HEART before each statement that you think is a sign of a healthy relationship;
put an X on each statement that you think is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.

9. Your partner threatens, insults, or humiliates you .

 I KNOW THE SIGNS OF A HEALTHY
RELATIONSHIP
Put a HEART before each statement that you think is a sign of a healthy relationship;
put an X on each statement that you think is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.

10. You can discuss pregnancy and parenting

decisions and your view is respected.
 KEEPING
HEALTHY
RELATIONSHI
PS
Good relationships are fun and
make you feel good about yourself.
The relationships that you make in
your youth years will be a special
part of your life and will teach you
some of the most important lessons
about who you are. Truly good
relationships take time and energy
to develop. All relationships should
be based on respect and honesty,
and this is especially important
when you decide to date someone.
In a healthy relationship,
both partners:

Are treated with

kindness and
respect
In a healthy relationship,
both partners:

Are honest with

each other
In a healthy relationship,
both partners:

Like to spend
time together
In a healthy relationship,
both partners:

Take an interest
in things that are
important to
each other
In a healthy relationship,
both partners:

Respect one
another’s emotional,
physical and sexual
limits
In a healthy relationship,
both partners:

Can speak honestly

about their feelings
Love should
never hurt
Dating relationships can be wonderful! But while
it’s important that dating partners care for each
other, it’s just as important that you take care of
yourself! About 10% of high school students say
they have suffered violence from someone they
date. This includes physical abuse where
someone causes physical pain or injury to
another person. This can involve hitting,
slapping, or kicking.
Sexual abuse is also a type of violence and involves any kind of
unwanted sexual advance. It can include everything from
unwelcome sexual comments to kissing to intercourse. But abuse
doesn’t always mean that someone hits or hurts your body.
Emotional abuse is anything that harms your self-esteem or
causes shame. This includes saying things that hurt your feelings,
make you feel that you aren’t worthwhile, or trying to control
who you see or where you go.
ABUSE AND
ASSAULT
Love should never hurt.
But sometimes it does:

1 in 6 women and 1
in 33 men will be
sexually assaulted
in their lifetime.
Love should never hurt.
But sometimes it does:
1.5 million women
are sexually assaulted
or otherwise
physically abused by
their partners each
year.
Love should never hurt.
But sometimes it does:
Over 800,000 males
are sexually or
physically abused by
partners.
Love should never hurt.
But sometimes it does:
Abuse can occur in
any type of
relationship--gay and
straight, casual and
long-term, young and
old.
Love should never hurt.
But sometimes it does:
About 10% of high
school students say
that have suffered
violence from
someone they date.
Break the Silence:
Stop the Violence
It may shock you to know that one out of every
eleven teens' reports being hit or physically hurt
by a boyfriend or girlfriend in the past twelve
months. But why is that, and how can we change
it? In "Break The Silence: Stop the Violence,"
parents talk with teens about developing healthy,
respectful relationships before they start dating.
 HOW TO
COMMUNICATE
Talking openly makes relationships more fun and
satisfying; especially when you both talk about each
other’s needs for physical, emotional, mental and
sexual health. You can’t expect a partner to know
what you want and need unless you tell them. The
simple fact is that none of us are a mind reader--so
it's important to be open about your needs and
expectations.
So, what's to talk
about?
Sexually Transmitted
Infections (STIs): This
is actually an issue that
all teenagers and adults
must be aware of.
Anybody who engages
in sexual activity is
prone to have this one.
Possibility of
Pregnancy: Females
who engage in sex
have a high
percentage of putting
themselves in this
kind of situation.
Right time for sex:
You can consider your
current status as a
student if it is really
high time to be
involved in this kind of
activity. Will this make
or break your future?
Boundaries:
Making the decision
to set your limits in
a relationship shows
your maturity to
assert your priorities
and respecting
yourself.
 MAKING THE
DECISION:
DECIDING WHETHER
OR NOT TO HAVE
SEX
The decision of whether or not to
have sex is up to you, and you alone.
Therefore, don’t be afraid to say
"no" if that’s how you feel.
Having sex for the first time can be a huge emotional event. There are
many questions and feelings that you may want to sort out before you
actually get "in the heat of the moment." Ask yourself:
● Am I really ready to have sex?
● How am I going to feel after I having sex?
● Am I doing this for the right reasons?
● How do I plan to protect myself/my partner from sexually
transmitted infections or pregnancy?
● How am I going to feel about my partner afterwards?
 TALKING TO
YOUR PARENTS
You probably think that talking to your parents
about sex is impossible. The truth is that most
parents want to help their kids make smart
decisions about sex. They know it's vital for
teens to have accurate information and sound
advice to aid the decision-making process.
Your friends really don't know any more than
you do, no matter what they say about their
sexual experience. The Internet, and other
media, can't give you everything you need.
Only people who know you can do that.
Peer pressure is always tough to deal with, especially when
it comes to sex. Some teenagers decide to have sexual
relationships because their friends think sex is cool. Others
feel pressured by the person they are dating. Still others
find it easier to give in and have sex than to try to explain
why not. Some teenagers get caught up in the romantic
feelings and believe having sex is the best way they can
prove their love.
But remember: Not every person your age is
having sex. Even if sometimes it feels like
everyone is "doing it," it is important to realize that
this is not true. People often talk about sex in a
casual manner, but this doesn't mean they are
actually having sex.
How to avoid peer
or date pressure
If you're worried about being pressured or you are
currently experiencing it, know
that you are not alone and there is something you
can do about it.

Hang out with friends

who also believe that
it's OK to not be ready
for sex yet.
If you're worried about being pressured or you are
currently experiencing it, know
that you are not alone and there is something you
can do about it.

Go out with a group

of friends rather
than only your date.
If you're worried about being pressured or you are
currently experiencing it, know
that you are not alone and there is something you
can do about it.

Introduce your friends

to your parents.
If you're worried about being pressured or you are
currently experiencing it, know
that you are not alone and there is something you
can do about it.

Invite your friends to

your home.
If you're worried about being pressured or you are
currently experiencing it, know
that you are not alone and there is something you
can do about it.

Stick up for your

friends if they are
being pressured to
have sex.
If you're worried about being pressured or you are
currently experiencing it, know
that you are not alone and there is something you
can do about it.

Think of what you

would say in advance
in case someone tries
to pressure you.
If you're worried about being pressured or you are
currently experiencing it, know
that you are not alone and there is something you
can do about it.

Always carry money

for a telephone call or
cab in case you feel
uncomfortable.
If you're worried about being pressured or you are
currently experiencing it, know
that you are not alone and there is something you
can do about it.

Be ready to call your

mom, dad or a friend
to pick you up if you
need to leave a date.
If you're worried about being pressured or you are
currently experiencing it, know
that you are not alone and there is something you
can do about it.

Never feel obligated to

"pay someone back"
with sex in return for a
date or gift.
If you're worried about being pressured or you are
currently experiencing it, know
that you are not alone and there is something you
can do about it.

Say "no" and mean

"no" if that's how you
feel.
DRUGS AND
ALCOHOL
In a survey of young people ages 15-24 by the Kaiser Family
Foundation, 9 out of 10 people surveyed reported that
their peers use alcohol or illegal drugs before sex at least
some of the time. Seven out of 10 also reported that
condoms are not always used when alcohol and drugs are
involved. Twenty-nine percent of those teens and young
adults surveyed said that they've "done more" sexually while
under the influence of drugs or alcohol than they normally
would have when sober.
BASIC RIGHTS
IN A
RELATIONSHIP
These are The Basic rights in a relationship:
● The right to emotional support
● The right to be heard by the other and to respond
● The right to have your own point of view, even if this
differs from your partner's
● The right to have your feelings and experiences
acknowledged as real
● The right to live free from accusation and blame
These are The Basic rights in a relationship:
● The right to live free from criticism and judgment
● The right to live free from emotional and physical
threat
● The right to live free from angry outbursts and rage
● The right to be respectfully asked, rather than
ordered
In addition to these basic relationships' rights, consider how you can
develop patience, honesty, kindness, and respect:
Patience - is essential to a healthy relationship. There are times
when others will respond to us in a way that is disappointing.
When this occurs, it important to communicate our
disappointment, but also to give the other person space. Be
willing to give the person some time to reflect, indicating that
you are ready to talk when they are ready. If the person is never
ready to discuss the situation, you may need professional help
to resolve the issue, or ask yourself whether or not you want to
continue the relationship.
In addition to these basic relationships' rights, consider how you can
develop patience, honesty, kindness, and respect:

Honesty - is another essential quality in healthy

relationships. To build honesty in a relationship,
you should communicate your feelings openly, and
expect the other person to do the same. Over time,
this builds trust.
In addition to these basic relationships' rights, consider how you can
develop patience, honesty, kindness, and respect:

Kindness – is extremely important to maintaining

healthy relationships. You need to be considerate of
others' feelings and other people need to be
considerate of yours. Be kind when you
communicate. Kindness will nurture your
relationships. Note that being kind does not
necessarily mean being nice.
In addition to these basic relationships' rights, consider how you can
develop patience, honesty, kindness, and respect:

Respect – is a cornerstone of all healthy

relationships. If you don't have respect for another
person, it will have a negative impact on all of your
interactions. Think of a time when you encountered
someone who didn't respect you. How did it feel?
What are some ways that you show respect to
others?
 Poster on Basic Rights in
Relationships
On a piece of yellow pad,
sketch, draw, or design a
poster which shows one’s
basic rights in a relationship.