Interpersonal Relationship Model Interpersonal Relationship Model describes above two

In today’s world nothing can be done all alone. We need directional components as per following criteria:
people around who can help and guide us at the times of Assistive Polarity
crisis. Remember conflicts and misunderstandings lead Assistive Polarity further consists of the following:
you nowhere. They are just a sheer waste of time and Assistive Attitude: Assistive attitude consists of actions
energy. Individuals ought to be cordial with each other for and behaviour which are in favour of the other person.
peace at the workplace as well as in personal lives. Resistive Attitude: Resistive attitude consists of actions
Working together also reduces stress and frustration and behaviour of an individual which are against the
among employees. Human beings are not machines and recipient and tend to make the other person weak.
we need trustworthy people with whom we can share our Level of Intentionality: Level of intentionality further
emotions and feelings. consists of following three levels:
A strong connection between two individuals with similar Hypo telic Level of intention: Sometimes an individual is
interests is often called as interpersonal relationship. unaware of the other person’s aspirations and intentions
Individuals compatible with each other often enter into a and unknowingly comes in his/her way without realizing
relationship. its harm. Hypotelic level signifies resistance to other
Interpersonal Relationship Model person’s aspirations unknowingly.
Interpersonal Relationship model explains an individual’s Telic or Meta telic Level of Intention: There are several
outlook towards relationship and how one’s perception cases where individuals deliberately stop the other person
changes in due course. from doing something clearly knowing how much it
Two people come together, like each other and enter into would affect the other person. An individual intentionally
a relationship. obstructing aspirations of an individual comes under telic
According to interpersonal relationship model, two or meta telic level of intention.
directional components go a long way in creating an Degree of Autonomy: Degrees of autonomy are further
individual’s perception about relationships. classified into the following:
They are as follows: According to interpersonal relationship model, the degree
Other to Self: The component “other to self” represents an of assistance and obstruction arise out of following:
individual’s awareness of his partner’s attitude, thoughts Auonomous Agency: Autonomous agency comes into
and beliefs towards himself. The other to self-component picture when both resistance as well as acceptances arises
is more to do with the awareness of an individual as to out of either of the two partner’s personal wishes, choices
how his/her partner treats him/her. and interests. None of the partners is influenced by a third
Self to Other: The “self to other” component signifies an party.
individual’s awareness of his own behaviour, attitude Proxy Agency: Proxy agency comes into play when
towards his/her partner. How an individual treats the other resistances and acceptances are due to an external party
person in relationship is denoted by self to other often called the third party. Here the third party influences
component. the decisions of the two individuals in relationship often
called as Targets.
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A strong association between individuals with similar relationship.
interests and mindsets is called as interpersonal
relationship. No one on this earth can ever stay alone The fourth stage begins when individuals in a
and it is really important for people to have relationship start doing things together. They are
trustworthy friends around. often seen together shopping, dining, going for
Interpersonal Relationship Development movies and so on.
Every relationship needs time to grow. One needs When individuals are really sure about their
time to come really close to someone and trust relationship, they decide to stay together for ever.
him/her. Miracles do not happen in a single day. One Individuals enter the wedlock in the fifth stage.
needs to be patient enough to understand the other What is important for relationship Development ?
person for the relationship to grow and reach to the Effective communication between partners - It is
next level. important for individuals to stay in touch on a regular
Various models have been proposed in the field of basis.
interpersonal relationship development. All the Trust
models suggest how relationship grows between Care
friends, partners, couples, colleagues and so on. Loyalty
Let us go through the models one by one: Understanding
Knapp’s Relationship Escalation Model Respect for each other
According to Knapp’s relationship escalation model, A relationship does not survive if any of the above is
every relationship goes through the following stages: missing.
Every relationship begins with a stage where two Knapp’s Relationship Termination Model
individuals not knowing each other before meet and A relationship ends when individuals do not
instantly get attracted towards each other. In this communicate with each other effectively.
stage, both the participants try their level best to Misunderstandings and confusions arise leading to
create an everlasting first impression on the other unnecessary conflicts.
person. Individuals show their best side to mark the Remember there is no place for ego and jealousy in
beginning of a relationship. In this stage physical relationships. One needs to be forgiving for the
appearance, grooming, manners, etiquette play an relationship to grow. The stagnating stage is often
essential role as individuals do not know each other characterized by individuals avoiding each other and
much. not interacting much.
In the second stage individuals try to know each other Individuals are no longer interested in each other and
more. They share their likes and dislikes and also try physical intimacy also decreases. People decide to
to find out about the other person’s interests. This move on from the relationship and opt for mutual
stage is characterized by extensive meetings and separation.
phone calls so that individuals get to check their Duck’s Relationship Filtering Model
compatibility level. As the name suggests, Duck’s relationship filtering
Case 1 - Individuals are not compatible with each model consists of many filters, a relationship has to
other. pass through.
Result - Individuals do not take the relationship Distance
forward and decide to end it for a better future. It is convenient for individuals to start a relationship
Case - 2 Individuals are compatible with each other with someone who stays close by or works with
Result - Individuals decide to continue the him/her. Distance does matter in relationships.
relationship People staying far off often find it difficult to meet
In the third stage, individuals make regular efforts to and eventually their relationship suffers. This
strengthen their relationship. People make explains why long distance relationships are not very
successful.
Perception Physical appearance
What one thinks about the other person also affects How individuals look, speak and present
relationship. Individuals might make wrong themselves also affect the relationship.
perception towards someone and not decide to
Individuals tend to get attracted towards
continue the relationship.
someone who is charming and confident